1 Kings 2:2
“I go the way of all the earth: be thou strong therefore, and shew thyself a man;”
No one ever said that being a leader would be easy. We live in times when many would rather play than lead, and the result is a society that is breaking down morally and structurally. Churches are seeing their pulpits become empty with no one to fill them because young adults would rather play than lead. Homes are mere playgrounds for childish adults who have no desire for children or for living for the LORD. Sadly, much of this is happening because very few have a desire to lead.
David was an old man, and somebody spiritual needed to take the throne. Adonijah tried to steal the leadership role only to be thwarted by the man of God. David wisely pointed Solomon out to be the next king of Israel. His words to Solomon are the words every leader needs to follow. David’s advice to his son is advice every person who leads or is taking a leadership role needs to follow closely. Let me show you what David advised his son.
First, David told his son to be strong. No leader is a great leader who is not strong and lets others sway you and your thinking. A leader needs to be strong as many will try to change you. You had better establish what you believe and follow it. Certainly, you are not going to know everything, but you better know the direction you are going and what you plan to do because many will come and challenge you and what you believe. Everyone won’t agree with what you do, but you must be strong enough to put your foot down and lead in a godly manner.
Second, David told his son to display strength. He said, “…shew thyself a man;” In other words, a leader can’t display nervousness or weakness when they are nervous or weak. A leader must always show confidence in what they are doing even when they don’t have confidence. A leader must show steadiness in the storms and unwavering trust in God when their spirit inside is shaken by the outside circumstances. A leader must be relaxed under the pressures of life, for that is what gives people confidence to follow you in their troubled times.
Third, David told his son to make decisions without worrying with what people think about them. He told his son to “keep the charge of the LORD thy God.” Leaders must make decisions. The quickest way to cause followers to lose trust in you as a leader is to avoid making decisions. You must be decisive as a leader because that is what gives followers confidence that you know what you are doing. Putting decisions off until the time of crisis only creates instability in an organization and distrust in the leader. You cannot allow one bad decision to cause you to hesitate from making future decisions. Everyone makes a bad decision once in awhile, but as a leader you have to learn from the bad decision and move on decisively to make the next decision.
Fourth, David told his son to stay in charge and realize as a leader he must run things. Leaders cannot let things get out of control; you must stay in control of all circumstances. In other words, decide what and how you are going to run things and don’t change at every whim of your feelings. My friend, you cannot be a person of change and expect followers to wholeheartedly follow you. People desire stability and stability is exuded when leaders run things without change.