1 Kings 11:1
“But king Solomon loved many strange women, together with the daughter of Pharaoh, women of the Moabites, Ammonites, Edomites, Zidonians, and Hittites;”
The verse above is the result of a decision that Solomon made many years prior in 1 Kings 3:1 which says, “And Solomon made affinity with Pharaoh…” The decision to make peace with Pharaoh led to Solomon marrying his daughter. It was Solomon’s choice to marry Pharaoh’s daughter that led to him loving “many strange women.”
Hold on; the story doesn’t end with the verse above. It ends in verse 4 which says, “For it came to pass, when Solomon was old, that his wives turned away his heart after other gods…” What Solomon thought was a harmless decision which he could control became the decision that ruined a life that could have been an example for all who followed. Instead, his life became the catalyst of Israel’s divide and eventual departure from God to worship many false gods.
Sadly, many preachers and believers don’t learn from history. Many preachers and believers make the same mistake that Solomon made by having associations that they think they can control. It doesn’t matter how strong you think you are, and it doesn’t matter how well you think you can control these bad associations, they always come back to destroy you and the generations who follow. Let me give you several thoughts concerning associations.
First, associations do matter. God says in 2 Corinthians 6:17, “Wherefore come out from among them, and be ye separate, saith the Lord…” God didn’t say it was okay to go among them so you could glean truths from them that may be helpful, but He said to come out from among them. Sadly, many preachers and believers keep journeying back to worldly and liberal associations to glean ideas and truths and never realize how they are being influenced each time they socialize with them.
Second, associations don’t change you immediately, but they change you a little at a time. Solomon didn’t immediately change, but he changed when he got old. Many have handled their weak associations for many years only to succumb to their influences when they got older. You can use all the analogies that you can glean their truths and spit out the bones, but eventually you are going to choke on their bones of compromise. You may not see the changes these weak associations make on you, but those who don’t go to the world do see the changes they are making on you.
Third, you open the door to poor associations with one weak association. It never stops with one weak association; once you make one bad association, you open the door to many other bad associations. You can’t mingle with one bad association without meeting their friends and seeing their alliances. You can be assured that once you have one bad association that the good associations will begin to stay away from you, which will leave you with bad associates who eventually change you.
The answer to this problem is to never allow yourself to have one bad association. Don’t assume the thought that you can control the bad associations in your life. Many others who were stronger than you thought the same thing, but they ALL changed. If you want to be who you are supposed to be when you get old, you better keep guard of your associations.