“How hast thou helped him that is without power? how savest thou the arm that hath no strength?”
Job asked a legitimate question in the verse above. He asked, “How hast thou helped him…” This question is the result of a question Bildad asked in the previous chapter. Bildad asked in Job 25:4, “How then can man be justified with God? or how can he be clean that is born of a woman?” This question deserved an answer, but Bildad’s mistake was that he asked a rhetorical question without giving the answer. Job became frustrated by Bildad’s questions because he gave no answer when the answer was obvious.
When you try to help people, you must have an answer for their problems. Many preachers preach sermons that don’t give an answer to the topic they are covering. Many teachers leave those listening frustrated because they don’t give an answer in such a manner that everyone can understand. Many parents leave their children frustrated because they don’t give an answer to their child’s problem.
God is a God of answers and solutions. He has an answer to every question and problem. In fact, God commands the Christian in 1 Peter 3:15, “…be ready always to give an answer to every man that asketh you a reason of the hope that is in you with meekness and fear:” Let me give you four guides that will help you from making others frustrated with you.
First, never ask rhetorical questions to which you give no answer. Bildad’s mistake was he asked a rhetorical question without giving an answer. If you are asking someone something to which there is an obvious answer, be sure to give the answer. Never leave people guessing what your answer would be even though you may think your answer is obvious. You will leave people frustrated if you don’t give them an answer.
Second, give answers, not pity. Job’s friends came to give pity, and they left him frustrated because he was looking for answers. The worst thing you can do is to leave people searching for answers. Pity never helped one person, but answers will help everyone. People don’t need your pity; they need your answers on how to get out of their situation.
Third, don’t condemn people with degrading answers. Job’s friends made the mistake of belittling him instead of giving him the answer in a right manner. When you give answers, don’t answer to attack the person, but answer to give them a solution on how to get out of their situation.
Fourth, prayer is always the best answer to anyone’s problems. When you have no answers to someone’s problem, you can at least pray with them to ask God to help them find the answer. When you do know the answer, you should still pray with them so that God can seal the answer in their heart. People often want prayer more than your answer. The greatest answer to anyone’s problem is God. When you take their problems to the LORD, you are giving them the answer to their problem which is God. If they learn to go to God like you do, they will always find the answer to their problems.
Remember, Satan’s tool to deceive is to question, but God’s tool to satisfaction is answers. Don’t leave people with questions, because Satan will use the question to lead them the wrong way. Leave people with Scriptural answers, because God is the answer to whatever problems they face.