“The beginning of strife is as when one letteth out water: therefore leave off contention, before it be meddled with.”
There are some people who seem to enjoy strife, but a strife-filled life does not bring glory to God. Living a life filled with contention, anger, enmity, acrimony and hostility is no way that a believer should live. God says in the verse above, “leave off contention, before it be meddled with.” If contention is what leads to strife, you must find out how to avoid contention so that you can avoid strife and live a life of peace. Let me share with you six things you must do to avoid strife.
First, avoid angry and wrathful people. Proverbs 15:18 and Proverbs 29:22 show that angry and wrathful people cause strife. If you have ever been around an angry or wrathful person, you will know that tension enters the room when they come into the room. Get away from those people who are always angry at people and are always filled with wrath against certain people. You cannot enjoy a peace-filled life when you associate with angry and wrathful people.
Second, don’t get involved in uncontrolled conversations. Proverbs 16:28 says, “A froward man soweth strife…” Avoid conversations that go nowhere. Avoid getting involved in conversations that are meant to cause strife. Whether the conversation is in person or digital media, you would be wise to avoid those people who ask questions that they know will cause strife. You would be wise to control the conversation instead of allowing the conversation to control you.
Third, don’t meddle in another’s business. Proverbs 20:3 shows that strife is caused by meddling. Don’t be the person who meddles in another’s relationship, business, family or anything that is not your area. Most strife is caused when one person thinks they need to give their opinion about how someone else is doing something. Don’t allow yourself to meddle in another’s business, and don’t associate with people who always insert themselves in another’s business.
Fourth, remove the scorner from your life. Proverbs 22:10 clearly shows that if the scorner is removed, contention will be gone. Contention is not caused by the person who stands for truth, but it is caused by the scorner trying to justify their worldliness and compromise. My friend, run as far away from those who mock the faith that you practice. Strife is the only thing you will experience by continuing to be around the scorner. If you remove the scorner from your life, you will remove the strife from your life.
Fifth, don’t listen to hearsay. Proverbs 26:20 says, “…where there is no talebearer, the strife ceaseth.” When you listen to hearsay, you will probably spread it which only causes you to have to deal with the strife of cleaning up the mess of the untruth of the hearsay. If you keep yourself from listening to hearsay, you will never be tempted to spread it and that will keep you from having to deal with a lot of strife.
Sixth, don’t let pride fill your heart. Proverbs 28:25 says, “He that is of a proud heart stirreth up strife…” Pride is one of the biggest sources of strife because the person filled with pride is always trying to show their superiority. If you will let Christ be superior in your life, you will never be concerned with having to be better than others. My friend, don’t let pride take hold in your heart. Avoid it and never fall for Satan’s trap of thinking you are better than others. You can avoid strife if you remove pride from your heart.