“And she shall follow after her lovers, but she shall not overtake them; and she shall seek them, but shall not find them: then shall she say, I will go and return to my first husband; for then was it better with me than now.”
The Book of Hosea tells a story about a couple who got married, but the wife left her husband to live a life of whoredoms. What this lady found out was that this lifestyle didn’t give her what she thought it would give, and it left her wishing she had never left. She realized once she was gone that it was better when she was with her husband than it was to live the life she wanted to live. The picture that sin painted for her was a mere sham, and it never gave her what it said it would give.
This lady should have considered what her actions would have brought before she left. Instead of seeing the grass being greener on the other side of the fence, she should have looked at the field of the other side of the fence and she would have seen that the lifestyle she desired was filled with heartache and death. This lady made the classic mistake that many people make in that she never considered what she had before she left.
Many people still make this same foolish mistake today. They quickly leave the church they once thought was the best church because the “other” church looks so much better. They leave their spouse for another person because they think the “other” person will provide for them what their spouse is not providing. Before you decide to leave your church, job, or spouse, I would like for you to consider a few things.
Consider that what you have is not as bad as what you think. The only reason you see the flaws with what you have is because you have gotten past the “honeymoon” stage with your church, job, or spouse. Before you leave, you might ought to consider that you have gotten used to the best. It is easy to take for granted the excellence that you have and think it could always be better when you are considering the false advertising of the other side. Just because you have a disagreement with what you have doesn’t make what you have a bad deal.
Moreover, you ought to consider that what you see on the other side is not the whole picture. You are only seeing the curb appeal of the other side. Before you leave, you ought to consider that the curb appeal may be the best that the other side has to offer. Once you leave for the other side, you will discover that the other side didn’t show you the corruption and heartache that it brings. Many have left a good church only to find out that the church they left where God was blessing was much better than any other church they could join. Many have left their spouse for another person only to find out that their first spouse wasn’t as bad as they thought. Many have left a good job only to regret how good the job they left was to them. Before you leave, you better consider that what you have is really the best you will ever have.
My friend, let me encourage you to stay with what you have and stop considering the other side. Moreover, have the common sense to return when you find out that the other side isn’t everything it said it would be. Swallow your pride and admit that what you had was the best. Furthermore, if you are considering leaving, be careful not to let your pettiness and selfishness cause you to have a distaste for the good that you have because the other side will also have its weaknesses.