1 Kings 11:38 “And it shall be, if thou wilt hearken unto all that I command thee, and wilt walk in my ways, and do that is right in my sight, to keep my statutes and my commandments, as David my servant did; that I will be with thee, and build thee a sure house, as I built for David, and will give Israel unto thee.”
We live in days when many homes seem to be very unstable. This is nothing new, as Satan has been out to destroy every home since God instituted marriage and the home. You can read through the Scriptures and see the instability in homes. Most of the families in the book of Genesis were very dysfunctional homes. It is a fallacy to think that dysfunctional and unstable homes are a modern-day phenomena because it is not.
However, it is needless to let your home be dysfunctional or unstable. In the verse above, God promises the family who will follow the instructions of this verse will find that God will build them “a sure house.” Notice that God is the one who builds the sure house. You will fail when you try to build a stable home. Only God can build stable homes. Psalm 127:1 says, “Except the LORD build the house, they labour in vain that build it:…” Man cannot build a stable home. Only God can build stable homes, but man must choose to follow His instructions. You must do four things for God to build a stable home for you.
First, you must hearken unto all that the LORD commands. To hearken is to listen. God speaks through His Word and through the preaching of His Word. You will never build a stable family without the family faithfully reading God’s Word and being faithful to ALL the church services. You are not hearkening to all of God’s commandments when you are hit-and-miss to the church services or in reading God’s Word. Every stable Christian home has been built on faithfulness to reading God’s Word and faithfulness to all church services.
Second, you must walk in God’s ways. It is not enough just to listen to the preaching or to read God’s Word, but you must choose to walk in God’s ways. In other words, you can’t build a stable home by throwing out the old paths. God’s ways don’t change with society. Just because the old paths are not easy does not mean that you should forsake them, for in the pathway of the old paths are stable homes. Embracing ALL of the old paths is critical to God building a stable home.
Third, you must do what is right in God’s sight. Doing right is different from believing right. You can hear God’s Word, not change what you believe, but not do right, and your home will become dysfunctional or unstable. To do right means to serve God as a family. The best family time is found in serving God together. God can build a stable home when all of the family is on board with serving Him. Both husband and wife need to be involved in serving the LORD. It cannot be just one spouse serving the LORD, but both must be serving God for Him to build you a stable family.
Fourth, you must not change courses if you want God to build you a stable home. God says, “keep my statutes and my commandments.” Don't quit the first three ingredients that it takes for God to build a stable home. God builds stable homes through families choosing to stick with what they know God wants them to do. If you constantly change what you do, you will destroy your home. Stick with what has been given to you, and God can build you a stable home.