Acts 27:3 “And the next day we touched at Sidon. And Julius courteously entreated Paul, and gave him liberty to go unto his friends to refresh himself.”
What an interesting statement is made in the verse above when it says, “…And Julius courteously entreated Paul, and gave him liberty to go unto his friends to refresh himself.” Paul was a prisoner, but the guard had so much trust in Paul that he allowed him to go to his friends to be refreshed. Most guards would never allow a prisoner to go on their own word, but this guard did for Paul because he had built trust with this guard even though this guard was there to keep him captive.
Imagine if Paul had mistreated the guard because of his own personal situation; do you think the guard would have trusted him to go on his own? I think not! Imagine if Paul had a bad attitude and treated everyone spitefully; he would have never built trust. Imagine if Paul was dishonest in how he conducted himself, this guard would have never had the trust to let him go to his friend’s place to be refreshed.
Building trust with people is critical to your ability to be able to work with people. You would be wise to build trust with everyone you know because you never know when you’ll need to use that trust for a personal favor in a time of need. Let me give you several thoughts about building trust.
First, you build trust over time, not overnight. Every action you perform either builds or tears down trust with others. It is critical to your ability to building trust with others that you make sure that everything you do is for their good. If you expect others to trust you immediately, you have illusionary and unreal expectations. Trust takes time to build, and you need to be patient with others while you build that trust.
Second, building trust is accomplished by being trustworthy. If you are not a person of your word, you will never build trust. Every promise you make is either building or tearing down trust with others, depending on what you do with your word. You can't expect people to trust you when you never follow through with what you say you will do. It is better never to give your word than to give your word and never keep it. Remember, you are trying to build trust with others, and trust is built with your words, actions and promises.
Third, building trust is enhanced with your spirit. If you are negative about everything, you are going to have a harder time building trust. People have a hard time trusting someone who is always negative. If you are a person of a negative disposition, you need to change it so people will want to trust you. You are going to need someone’s trust down the road, so it is worthy of you changing your negative disposition for the sake of building trust with them when you need their trust.
Fourth, don’t withdraw from your trust account with others regularly because one day your account will be empty. Many have done actions that have bankrupted their trust account, and then they wonder why no one trusts them. My friend, there will come a day when you face battles or are trying to accomplish a great feat of faith. You are going to need others to trust you while you go through those battles or are asking them to trust you enough to follow you through this feat of faith. Build your trust daily with others, and withdraw that trust scarcely; this way you always have a balance in your trust account.