“But the queen Vashti refused to come at the king’s commandment by his chamberlains: therefore was the king very wroth, and his anger burned in him.”
King Ahasuerus could get anything he wanted because of his position, but his anger caused him to remove Vashti from her position because she didn’t do what he wanted her to do. It was his pride that caused him to become angry, and it was his pride that moved him to cause Vashti to be removed and likely put to death because she wouldn’t come to his feast and perform a wicked act.
Proverbs 21:24 says, “Proud and haughty scorner is his name, who dealeth in proud wrath.” Anger is always the result of pride. No person should allow anger to control their emotions and actions, especially leaders. Many people have done things they regretted all because they could not control their anger. God says in Proverbs 14:29, “He that is slow to wrath is of great understanding…” A person who controls their anger is a person who will be respected by many. Anger will cause you to do three harmful things.
First, anger makes you do foolish acts. Proverbs 14:17 says, “He that is soon angry dealeth foolishly: and a man of wicked devices is hated.” Many people have done things in a fit of rage that they later regretted. I wonder how many marriages have been hurt because of angry words? Nothing good comes from an angry person. You better get control of your anger if you don’t like to clean up the mess it leaves.
Second, anger has grave consequences. Proverbs 19:19 says, “A man of great wrath shall suffer punishment: for if thou deliver him, yet thou must do it again.” Anger has caused many people to perform acts that caused them to be incarcerated. Many people have lost their jobs because of their inability to control their anger. Many people have lost their marriage because of the physical harm they did to their spouse in anger. We could write volumes of pages of the grave consequences of anger. If you don’t want to have to deal with the grave consequences of anger, you have better learn to get your anger under control.
Third, anger becomes a trap of destruction. Proverbs 22:24-25 says, “Make no friendship with an angry man; and with a furious man thou shalt not go: Lest thou learn his ways, and get a snare to thy soul.” Many hateful words have been said in a fit of anger. Many hurtful acts have been performed because of a person allowing their anger to get the best of them. Destruction is always the end of those who can’t control their anger.
My friend, pride is the only reason you lose your temper. If you get rid of pride, you will be able to control your anger. When pride is hurt, it often lashes out in anger hurting those who help us and are friendly to us. Many people try to deal with anger as a source of a problem when anger is only the product of pride. If you deal with your pride issue, you will squelch your anger issue.
Do you find yourself easily angered? The answer to getting rid of pride is keeping your focus on Christ. Anytime we get our focus off Christ, pride steps in which results in uncontrolled anger. If you don’t like what your anger makes of you, you would be wise to yield to the Holy Spirit and focus on Christ; this ultimately is the antidote to getting anger under control.