1 Kings 9:13
“And he said, What cities are these which thou hast given me, my brother? And he called them the land of Cabul unto this day.”
The incident that happened in the verse above is a valuable lesson for the success of any relationship. Solomon and Hiram worked with each other to build the temple of the LORD. Hiram sent carpenters, masons and cedar wood to help build the temple. There is no doubt that Hiram had a great investment in this temple. When the temple was finished, Solomon wanted to repay the debt by giving him a district that contained twenty cities.
Hiram was so displeased with this gift that he named the district, Cabul, and restored them back to Solomon. However, what Hiram thought was of no value was of great value to Solomon. 2 Chronicles 8:2 says, “That the cities which Huram had restored to Solomon, Solomon built them, and caused the children of Israel to dwell there.” Apparently, Solomon thought these cities were good enough to build, and those cities became neighborhoods for families to dwell in because someone took them and built them.
If you are not careful, you can fall into the trap of being displeased with others and their attempt to show you kindness. The name “Cabul” means to be displeased. According to history, Hiram wanted coastal cities, but Solomon gave him inland cities. Those inland cities eventually became a place for families to live and grow old together. What was displeasing to one became the catalyst to build and prosper to another. It all happened because one person wasn’t pleased with another’s expression of appreciation.
My friend, you must be careful in your relationships about showing displeasure for the goodness express to you through gifts. Let me caution you about the need of not talking bad about something someone has done for you. You must realize that when someone gives you a gift, they put their time and effort to think about you. Just because someone’s gift doesn’t meet your “standard” of a good gift doesn’t take away the thoughtfulness of someone who thought enough about you to take their time to give you something. Don’t be so self-centered that a token of appreciation is rejected because it doesn’t meet your standard of a gift. Any token of appreciation that someone does for you should be received with gratitude.
Moreover, the individual is always of more value than the gift given. It doesn’t matter what the value is, the person’s token of love displayed in giving you a gift is of more value than an expensive gift they could have given to you. A child’s little picture that they drew for you is of more value than a sizable check that another person may give to you. The enjoyment or financial value of a gift is not what makes it valuable; it is the love of the individual who gave the gift that is of great value. Don’t lose sight of the individual over your deemed value of a gift. Realize that the individual expressing their love to you is what you should appreciate.
Let me ask you; are you guilty of downplaying something that someone has given to you? Always remember that if someone gave you something, they must have thought that it would be valuable to you. Let me encourage you to be more appreciative of the expressions of love people give to you. Don’t let a self-centered and greedy heart take away from the most important thing about a gift, and that is the love expressed by the individual.