“But Samson’s wife was given to his companion, whom he had used as his friend.”
Samson seemed like a very lonely man. His lifestyle was one that caused those who should have been his friends to be distant because he was a companion to the enemy. Samson was supposed to be the deliverer from the Philistines, but instead he chose Philistine people to be his best friends.
The choices that Samson made eventually came back to bite him at the end of his life. The cause of Samson’s tragic life is discovered in the verse above. It says that Samson’s wife, who was a Philistine, “…was given to his companion, whom he had used as his friend.” Those who Samson thought were his friends were the very ones who hurt him the most, and the biggest reason they hurt him the most was because they were the wrong companions.
The Scriptures make it clear that there are several wrong companions. There is the “companion of fools,” the “companion of riotous men,” and the “companion of a destroyer.” The relationship with each of these companions all starts out with a casual acquaintance. You must be careful about your acquaintances because they often become your companions and eventually your friends. Let me give you several observations about companions.
First, just because you keep company with someone doesn’t mean they should become your companion. There are some people you can’t avoid in life because you live in this world. For instance, the people you work with on the job can’t be avoided, but they don’t have to become your companions. Just because you work with someone or go to school with someone doesn’t mean you have to go to places with them. Always remember that someone is a companion before they become your friend, and if you don’t want to have the wrong friends, you would be wise to be sure you don’t have the wrong companions.
Second, the wrong companions have no allegiance to the cares of your life. Samson never learned that the wrong companions would turn on him if it benefited them. It was Samson’s companion who eventually took his wife. Your companions may act as though they are your best friend, but you will find that they have no allegiance to you and they will turn on you quickly if they feel it will benefit them, or if they feel your companionship will hurt them.
Third, the wrong companions hurt your potential the most. Samson’s companions hurt his ability to live a full life. It was Samson’s companions who eventually destroyed his life. You must understand that you can’t have a bright future and the wrong companions at the same time. With whom you choose to associate will determine the prognosis of your future. You can’t run with the wrong companions and expect anything less than heartache.
My friend, companions eventually become friends. Those you are casual with eventually become those closest to you. If you are going to have the right friends, you are going to have to keep the right companions. If you are going to have the right companions, you must be sure you spend time in the right places. The places you choose to go will determine your companions and friends. If you go to the right places, you will never have to worry about having the wrong companions.