Creating an Unhappy Atmosphere
“Behold, happy is the man whom God correcteth: therefore despise not thou the chastening of the Almighty:”
Throughout the Scriptures, you will find that God does correct His children. The word “correcteth” means to punish, dispute, rebuke or reprove. God corrects His children because He wants them to be happy. If there is no correction, there will be no happiness. Correction and punishment are part of the ingredients that lead to happiness.
On the other hand, if God’s correction leads to a man being happy, that would mean that a person who has no correction will be unhappy. The reason God commands us not to despise His chastening is because it leads to our happiness. Happiness and chastening are synonymous with each other because the end road to chastening is to keep you from doing something that brings heartache.
Let me take this truth into the home. The happiest home is the home where correction is administered when someone does wrong. One reason so many homes are unhappy today is because parents refuse to chasten their children, and that refusal creates unhappy children, not only now, but in the future. Let me give you several observations about the importance of correction.
First, lines must be drawn for correction to be needed. You cannot correct a person without establishing rules, boundaries and limitations. The home where there are no lines drawn is the home where disappointment and disharmony reigns. There must be a clear line drawn that is not to be crossed. Every parent needs to say at times, “No! We don’t do that in our home.” It is not oppressive to tell your children that you don’t allow certain things to be done in your home; rather, it creates clear boundaries for everyone to live inside which in turn creates a happy atmosphere.
Second, happiness is the result of proper correction. The verse above doesn’t say that correction brings immediate happiness, but it does bring happiness. If a parent corrects their children when they do wrong, they will find that their children will be happy later in life because they learned right and wrong at a time in their life when the correction stopped them from greater harm. There are scores of adults who have thanked their parents for correcting them when they were younger because they looked back at what correction taught them, and what it kept them from doing. Correction may not always be the easiest thing to administer, but if you love your children, you will understand that the uncomfortableness of correction brings happiness later in life. Always remember that correction teaches your children that there are consequences for doing wrong.
Third, the wise parent will learn what type of correction to administer for each incident. The word “correcteth” carries several different types of correction. The wise parent understands that there are times when rebuke is enough, but there are times when spanking is needed. The key is to let the correction meet the degree of the infraction. Proper correction always leads to happy people.
My friend, don’t be afraid to use correction in the home. The key to proper correction is doing it with the right attitude. Never correct out of anger, because anger leads to abuse. Always remember that the loving parent is the parent who corrects their children when they do wrong.