“I have heard many such things: miserable comforters are ye all.”
Job found himself in a position where many believers find themselves in that he was going through a tough time, but there was no one whom he could find to help him. In fact, those who came to help him ended up being the ones who made his situation worse. When Job classified the counseling of his friends, he said that they were “miserable comforters.” The ones who came to comfort him in his adversity became the ones who added adversity to his life. The reason they added adversity is because their counseling was not godly counsel.
Finding the counselor who can help you through the tough times of life is important if you are going to claw your way out of your situation. I have found that there are three types of counselors that you need to avoid if you don’t want your situation to get worse. Let me point out the three types of counselors who are dangerous, and the one type of counselor you need to find.
The first dangerous counselor is the accusatory counselor. Job said about these men in verse 4, “I also could speak as ye do: if your soul were in my soul’s stead, I could heap up words against you, and shake mine head at you.” The problem with these men is that they were accusing him of things without any basis. The accusatory counselor will do nothing but make you bitter. When people are going through tough times, they don’t need to be accused of things they haven’t done. Be careful about getting counsel from someone who accuses without a basis.
The second dangerous counselor is the jealous counselor. The jealous counselor counsels with their agenda in mind. In other words, the jealous counselor is not concerned with your best, but they are concerned with their best. The jealous counselor counsels by how it benefits them the most. This is dangerous because God’s will doesn’t always benefit you or the counselor. The best counselor counsels according to God’s will, and not according to how it benefits them or their ministry.
The third dangerous counselor is the insecure counselor. Insecure counselors warn you about seeking other wise counselors because they want to be the hero instead of God’s mouthpiece. Insecure counselors think they are God’s gift to counseling and will never admit that they don’t have an answer. No person has the answer to everything. An insecure counselor is dangerous because they will give you advice on something they don’t know, hoping that they are getting the answer right. If the person you get counsel from tells you not to go to another wise person for advice, be careful of their advice because “in multitude of counsellors there is safety.” (Proverbs 24:6)
The best counselor is a godly counselor. A godly counselor will be one who always uses God’s Word as their source for advice. You will find that a godly counselor has a way of allowing you to see the end of what you want to do through the eyes of the Scriptures. The one thing a godly counselor will do is that they will help you to silence the voices around you to get you to listen to the voice of God so that you can know what God wants you to do. My friend, be careful of the dangerous counselors and only seek the counselors who are only interested in you finding God’s will and not theirs.