2 Samuel 19:18
“And there went over a ferry boat to carry over the king’s household, and to do what he thought good. And Shimei the son of Gera fell down before the king, as he was come over Jordan;”
Every person will have a Shimei in their life whom they will have to deal with regularly. It may be a critic who is in the church, on the job, or even a member of your family. Just like David had to deal with Shimei, you will find yourself having to deal with someone who thinks it is their job to find every thing you do wrong and throw it in your face. How you deal with your Shimei often determines your ability to help those who want your influence in their lives. Just like David didn’t respond to Shimei, so you should not try to destroy the Shimei in your life. There are several things you should do when dealing with your Shimei.
First, don’t react to their criticisms. The worst thing you could do is to act in a manner that would give them credibility. Kindness is the greatest ammunition to killing criticism and exposing the critic. When you are kind to those who are criticizing you, others will see your kindness and wonder why this critic is so adamant in destroying you and your character. Never let the Shimei in your life goad you into attacking them because that is what will validate their criticisms about you. You must always remember that sometimes the best answer is no answer. When you don’t respond to them, you will make them look like the fool.
Second, watch your spirit that you don’t let their criticisms affect it. Criticism has a way of hurting your spirit to the point that it can defeat you. Always remember that the greatest of leaders and Christians had critics. David had his critic, but he didn’t let it affect his spirit. Jesus had more critics than any person has ever had, but He didn’t let their criticisms affect His spirit. When your spirit is controlled by the Holy Spirit is when criticism falls short of influencing your spirit.
Third, don’t let the criticisms of the Shimei’s change your daily routines. One of the goals of the critics is to stop you from doing what brought the LORD’s blessings on your life. Keep doing what you have always done and let God’s blessings invalidate the critic’s criticisms. David never stopped to address the Shimei; instead, he kept doing what he was supposed to do. If Satan knows that criticism will divert you from serving the LORD, he will find many critics to send your way to pull your attention away from reaching the lost for Christ. Never let your daily routine change because of the critics who hurl their vitriol accusations at you.
Fourth, let the Shimei’s hang themselves. If you give a critic enough rope, they will hang themselves. David knew that Shimei would one day do something that would expose his evil heart. That day never came under David, but it did come under Solomon. You will find that the critic often knows no boundaries to their criticism, and eventually they will cross lines that everyone sees their evil intentions to destroy you. It is always better to let the Shimei’s destroy themselves than it is for you to put your hand to destroy them.
Fifth, ask the LORD to give you grace for your spirit. The best way to keep your spirit right is to let God’s grace be the shield to protecting your spirit. You are going to have Shimei’s in your life who criticize and pick at everything you do, but you must let God’s grace be the balm that protects your spirit from becoming bitter.