2 Chronicles 21:20
“Thirty and two years old was he when he began to reign, and he reigned in Jerusalem eight years, and departed without being desired. Howbeit they buried him in the city of David, but not in the sepulchres of the kings.”
A sad statement is made about Jehoram at his death that he “departed without being desired.” The wicked lifestyle that he lived and the destructive pattern throughout his life led to people despising him and happy when he was gone. It is sad that a man lived forty years on this Earth and didn’t do anything that caused a desire in someone to emulate.
On the other hand, there are many kings and leaders in the Scriptures that, when they died, the people mourned for them for many days. These kings and leaders lived holy lives. These kings and leaders helped those they led. These kings and leaders left their world better than when they got it.
You are going to die someday, and you should desire to leave the places where you live and work a better place because you have been there. It would be sad to depart without being desired when you die. I have seen people die who departed without being desired, and I have seen others depart with desire who people continue to copy the example of their life after they are gone. Several things you must do if you are going to one day depart with desire.
First, you are going to have to realize that every day you are building a legacy with your actions. How you live will dictate what people think about you when you are gone. Who you help throughout the day determines whether people will have a desire for you when you depart. You can’t expect people to desire to be like you when every place you leave is worse off than when you came. You can one day leave with desire if you would realize that every day is another piece of the puzzle that determines the totality of your life. Don’t put one piece into the puzzle of your life that would cause others not to desire to copy what you do.
Second, your attitude and treatment towards others does determine their desire towards you. I have often said that you don’t have to be a jerk to be a good Christian. Something needs to change when your life is a pathway of broken and damaged relationships because of your attitude and treatment of people. Stop blaming others for their treatment of you when you are to blame because of how you treat people. If you will be kind towards others, you will be pleasantly surprised how people will return the kindness. Your attitude towards others plays a big part in whether others will desire who you are.
Third, the results of your life’s choices determine whether or not you depart with desire. Jehoram left a pathway of destruction because of his choices, and that is why he left without desire. You must honestly ask yourself if every place you go is a better place because you have been there. You can lie to yourself and continue to go down the same destructive path, or you can be honest and change those parts of your life that are ruining the places you have been.
Christian, would you depart with or without desire if you died today? Is there anything in your life that would cause other to want to copy? Don’t waste the days of life that the LORD has given you. Live a holy life with a good attitude as you help others, and one day you will depart with desire.