2 Chronicles 11:23
“And he dealt wisely, and dispersed of all his children throughout all the countries of Judah and Benjamin, unto every fenced city: and he gave them victual in abundance. And he desired many wives.”
A disturbing statement is made about Rehoboam that explains his foolish decision at the beginning of his reign. The verse above says, “And he desired many wives.” You would have thought that Rehoboam would have learned from his father that many wives would turn his heart away from the LORD. 1 Kings 11:4 shows this when it says, “For it came to pass, when Solomon was old, that his wives turned away his heart after other gods…” Rehoboam saw the influence of the many wives on his father, and he saw the effect of this decision. He should have learned from his father, but he didn’t. Four lessons can be learned from this statement that should caution you about the importance of your decisions and their effects on your children.
First, history should be your teacher. Every child should learn from the mistakes of their parents. Instead of getting upset at your parents, you should learn from their mistakes. It is foolish to make the same mistakes your parents made when God gave you a firsthand example of what not to do. Sadly, many children follow in the footsteps of their parents and never learn from them; instead, they choose to spite their parents instead of learning from them. Certainly, the bad decisions of your parents may have adversely affected you, but instead of getting upset with them you need to learn from their mistakes and correct your own ways. If you will let history be your teacher, you can avoid the heartache of history’s lessons.
Second, you can’t change the consequences of bad decisions. Let me ask you; why do you think you can change the consequences of bad decisions? If a certain lifestyle, action or decision led to adverse consequences, instead of doing the same thing again, you should choose to change what caused the adverse consequence. Never think you are the exception to foolish decisions and actions.
Third, one bad decision always affects the discernment for future decisions. The sad part about Rehoboam was that his bad decision to forsake his father’s counselors is what led to the foolish decision to desire many wives. My friend, decisions always affect your discernment. If you want to have good discernment, you need to be sure to make wise decisions. If you want to avoid bad discernment, you would be wise to avoid making a bad decision.
Fourth, never set a pattern of bad decisions for future generations. The decision to desire many wives didn’t start with Solomon, it started with David. After David perceived that the LORD had confirmed him to be king, he took more wives. What David did in moderation, Solomon did in excess. It was David who set a patter of bad decisions for his children and grandchildren. Always keep in mind that your decisions, whether good or bad, are setting a pattern for future generations. If you don’t want your family to follow a bad pattern, you would be wise to avoid the bad decisions that they may take to excess. Let me encourage you to be careful about setting a bad pattern for your children and grandchildren. Let the Scriptures guide your decisions, and the pattern you set for future generations will be a good one.