“A good man out of the good treasure of his heart bringeth forth that which is good; and an evil man out of the evil treasure of his heart bringeth forth that which is evil: for of the abundance of the heart his mouth speaketh.”
People who live in a humid environment understand how annoying mosquitos can be. There is nothing worse than to be sitting in the house or on the porch and hear a high whining noise by your ear. You know that noise is a mosquito that is about to land on you. The only way to keep the mosquitos from bothering you is to spray a repellent on yourself. I don’t know if it is the smell of the repellent or an ingredient in the spray that repels them, but as long as it works you will be happy.
Sadly, some people seem to be a repellent to others. That person who repels people will often become discouraged that nobody wants to be around them; they can’t figure out why nobody wants to be their friend. Luke 6:37-45 shows us why people often are like a repellent to others.
Luke 6:37 says, “Judge not, and ye shall not be judged: condemn not, and ye shall not be condemned: forgive, and ye shall be forgiven:” This verse is talking about judging people in your spirit. Many times we prejudge someone because of their appearance or past without ever giving them a chance to grow. We then wonder why they don’t want to come back to our church or why they won’t be friendly towards us. The reason is because your judging spirit has repelled them. You may not have said anything to them, but your spirit repelled them.
You will notice that verse 37 ends with a colon, which means that verse 38 further explains what God was trying to get across. God says, “Give, and it shall be given unto you;…” God is saying that however you judge someone in your spirit is how they will treat you. The reason some have more friends than others is because they don’t have a spirit of judgment, and people enjoy being around them. The less your spirit judges others, the more friends you will have.
It all comes down to your heart. The verse above talks about the “good treasure” of your heart will bring forth “that which is good.” What you must understand is that how your heart judges people is what eventually comes out of your mouth. This is why God says, “…for of the abundance of the heart his mouth speaketh.” You can think that you are cloaking your judgment of another, but the Scriptures are clear that a judging spirit dictates the spirit of your words. It may not be what you say that repels people away from you, but it could be the judging spirit that comes in the tone of your words that repels them. A judging spirit affects the tone of your words no matter how well you think you are covering your thoughts of that person.
My friend, it all comes down to how your spirit judges others. If you want to have friends, you are going to have to stop judging people in your spirit. A friendless person is a person who judges others, and their judging repels others. This is why God says in Proverbs 18:24, “A man that hath friends must shew himself friendly…” If you will do away with a judging spirit and acquire a friendly spirit, you will find that others will reciprocate your friendliness. The next time you wonder why someone doesn’t want to be around you, check your spirit and be sure that you have not judged them in your heart.