Don’t Make it a Big Deal
“And he came and dwelt in a city called Nazareth: that it might be fulfilled which was spoken by the prophets, He shall be called a Nazarene.”
The verse above is talking about Jesus moving back to Nazareth from Egypt. Jesus was just a child when his parents were told by God to move to Egypt to keep the child alive. After living in Egypt for some time, God told Joseph that it was safe to move back to Israel, but they were to move to the city of Nazareth, a city which was not known as the best place to live. In spite of these moves and where he lived, Jesus still turned out right and didn’t become bitter.
My purpose in pointing this out is because too many people make a big deal about how bad it is for children to move when their parents are following the will of God. The fact is that it didn’t affect Jesus, and it doesn’t have to affect your children if you are following God’s will for your life. I know that by the time I graduated from high school, our family had moved seven times and lived in six different states. As much as you hear about how negative it is for parents to move their children, my parents didn’t make a big deal out of it and it really didn’t affect my siblings or me. There are several things I would like to point out so that you can avoid making it such a big deal to your children when God’s will moves you.
First, always make God’s will the preeminent purpose of your family. When you make God’s will the focal point for your children, they won’t think it is that big of a deal when God is the One moving your family. You will never fail as a parent by making every move about God’s will. If you are moving for any other purpose, you are the one responsible for the move and the consequences that come with it.
Second, make it an exciting adventure instead of a punishment. Any time you follow God’s will, it will be a great adventure. Let your children see the benefits of where you are moving. Every move has benefits that come with it. If you don’t focus on the negative, your children won’t think anything about the move.
Third, never turn a move into a martyr syndrome. Many preachers make moving a big deal when someone is following God’s will instead of realizing that many people outside of the ministry move all the time and nobody ever makes it a big deal. Military personnel move all the time, and nobody ever talks about how hard it is for their children. Your children are not going to suffer when you are following God’s will if you don’t make it a big deal. It seems that it is only in the ministry that we make it such a big deal. Instead, make it a big deal that they will get to meet new friends and see exciting new places in this move.
Fourth, get your children involved in the new church as soon as you move. Your children will become bitter if you make them sit at home and not get involved with those in the new church. My parents never isolated my siblings or me from the new church members. We were as much a part of the team as they were. Getting new friends is what made the adjustment easier and exciting.
Parent, if following God’s will is the focal point of your family, whenever and wherever God decides to move you won’t adversely affect your children. Make serving the LORD exciting, and any part of God’s will for your life will just be part of living the Christian life for your children.