2 Chronicles 28:11
“Now hear me therefore, and deliver the captives again, which ye have taken captive of your brethren: for the fierce wrath of the LORD is upon you.”
The verse above is a response of the tribe of Ephraim invading Judah and taking them captive. Ephraim planned to keep those who they captured in their invasion as bondmen or servants. God’s response to Ephraim’s intentions shows His feelings as to what they did. God said about Ephraim in verse 10, “…are there not with you, even with you, sins against the LORD your God?” He summarizes His feelings about Ephraim’s actions by saying, “…for the fierce wrath of the LORD is upon you.” In other words, God was not pleased that Ephraim didn’t treat his brethren right.
This incident is an inner-family squabble. God called Judah Ephraim’s “brethren.” The fact that Ephraim and Judah were not treating each other properly and the fact that their treatment brought God’s wrath on them shows God’s feelings about family members not getting along with each other.
Everybody has family, but just because they are family doesn’t mean that we will always get along. Sadly, some of the worst treatment I have observed between people is the treatment towards family members. I am not addressing husbands and wives, but I am addressing siblings that are hateful towards each other. Let me give you several helps about avoiding family differences.
First, you will not always agree with your siblings. Siblings not getting along goes all the way back to Cain and Abel. Just because you are family doesn’t mean you are going to agree, but just because you are family doesn’t give you a right to be hateful and spiteful towards each other. Siblings will have political, religious, and opinion differences, but that doesn’t mean that you can’t get along with each other.
Second, you are not the measurement of truth. Just because your siblings don’t believe like you doesn’t make them wrong and you right. You are not the measurement of right and wrong; God is! You will create avoidable differences if you always think your siblings have to be like you.
Third, avoid the areas where you differ for the sake of getting along. Let me advise you not to insert your thoughts or opinions on your sibling’s social media accounts because you know that will create differences that you don’t need to create. When you are with each other, you must learn not to discuss the areas where you disagree. There must be something you agree on; therefore, let those topics be your subject of conversations with each other. Enjoying being with your siblings can be accomplished if you choose to talk about things with which you do agree.
Fourth, pray for the areas where you differ. Preaching at your siblings every time you talk with them will only create greater differences. You can accomplish more through prayer in resolving family differences than you ever will through preaching at them.
My friend, you only have one family, and there will come a day when you are going to need and want your family. Burning bridges with family members over avoidable differences will make it challenging to repair those bridges when you need your family. My advice from the Scripture is to learn to avoid your differences, and get along with your family by focusing on the areas where you do agree.