“And it came to pass, as her soul was in departing, (for she died) that she called his name Benoni: but his father called him Benjamin.”
Rachel struggled her entire life to have children. She and her sister fought with each other for their husband’s favor. The way they thought they could get their husband’s favor was by giving him children. To Rachel’s dismay, her womb was not as fruitful as her sister’s. A life-changing truth is found in the birth of Rachel’s second child. She knew she would die at the birth of her second child, and when he was born she named him Benoni which means, “the son of sorrow.” Jacob didn’t want his son to be known as the “son of sorrow,” so he changed his name to Benjamin which means, “the son of my right hand.” The changing of this name meant the world of difference to this young man and how he would be looked at for the remainder of his life. The perspective of his father gave him hope and promise even though he would never get to know his mother.
Every trial that you face in life with either be a Benoni or a Benjamin. You can let your trials be the son of sorrow, or you can let them be the son of your right hand. You can let the trials you face bring a negative and sorrowful outlook to your life, or you can choose to let your trials become the source of blessings that only come from abiding at the right hand of God in prayer. Four actions need to be taken if you are going to turn your trials from sorrow to blessings.
First, turning sorrow to blessing is a perspective of how you choose to look at your circumstance. The difference between a Benoni and a Benjamin is the difference of your perspective of hardships and trials. You can choose to sulk at what your trials have taken from you, or you can rejoice in the children of blessings they give you. Yes, every trial takes things from you, but they also give you opportunities you would have never had without them. The children of trials can be a blessing if you choose to look at your trials as a blessing instead of a source of sorrow.
Second, turning sorrow to blessing is a choice of where you choose to dwell. Jacob didn’t want to dwell in sorrow, so he chose to dwell at the right hand of God. The distance between sorrow to blessing is the distance from your sorrow to the throne of God. You can dwell in your sorrow and let it make you bitter, or you can go to the throne of God and dwell at His right hand in prayer and allow Him to give you the different perspective you need to make your sorrow a blessing. Your sorrow will never become a blessing until you spend time at the right hand of God in prayer. The distance between sorrow and blessing is not far; it is the difference between sitting and sulking or kneeling and praying.
Third, sorrow’s end is determined by which perspective you choose. It is interesting that Rachel died, but Jacob enjoyed the blessing of Benjamin for many years. You will spiritually die if you choose to let your hardships be your sorrow; however, you can enjoy years of blessings if you choose to turn your sorrow into blessings. The end of sorrow will either be death or blessing by your choice to dwell at the right hand of God or sit in sorrow and sulk.
Fourth, the result of turning sorrow to blessing influences those who follow you. Had Jacob chosen to keep Benjamin’s name as Benoni, Benjamin would have had to live with that tag the rest of his life. What you choose to do with your sorrow affects the next generation for good or bad. My question to you is this; what are you going to do with your sorrow?