“It is better to dwell in the corner of the housetop, than with a brawling woman and in a wide house.”
Two locations are listed in the verse above as to where a person can live. God talks about the “wide house,” and He talks about living “in the corner of the housetop.” The wide house is a fancy house with plenty of square footage to enjoy; whereas, the corner of a housetop is literally living in the corner of your attic. God says that it is more peaceful to live in the corner of your attic than it is to live with a “brawling woman.” God uses a “brawling woman” in this verse because this dialogue was from a father talking to his son about the marriage relationship. If it were a dad talking to his daughter, God would have used a brawling man as His example. It is not the gender that God is emphasizing as much as He is emphasizing living with a “brawling” person.
A “brawling” person is a quarrelsome person. This person is one who beats something into the ground just so that they can win. There is nothing that will destroy relationships more than two people who are constantly brawling with each other. It doesn’t matter how much money you have or how many possessions you own; if you can’t get along with people, you will live a miserable life. Let me share several things you must avoid so that you don’t become a brawling person in life.
First, don’t beat things into the ground just to win. Some people just won’t let things go. You don’t have to keep going back to what someone has done and keep beating them with it just so you can win. The best way to destroy any relationship is to continue to beat someone with something that they have done just so that you can show your “superiority.”
Second, never use curse words just to emphasize your point. Cursing has never settled one dispute; in fact, it only adds to the problem. Cursing shows your lack of respect for the person to whom you are talking. Let me encourage you never to allow curse words to come from your mouth, especially when you are having a disagreement with someone.
Third, don’t be disagreeable just to be disagreeable. Some people don’t know when to let something go; instead, they always have to be negative and disagree with someone just so they can look good. You would do your relationships a big favor by keeping your opinions to yourself. Don’t be the person who always points out the negative of something that another person is excited about. One of the best things you can learn to do to keep strong relationships is to keep your opinions to yourself.
Fourth, never let volume become your tool to win. Yelling never helps disagreements with others. You NEVER win by yelling. The only thing that yelling does is that it escalates the situation to the point that it further damages the problems you have with someone. Never use the weapon of yelling to try to win a disagreement.
If these things destroy relationships, what is the answer to avoiding these things? The answer is to go to the corner. In other words, one of the people in the relationship is going to have to be strong enough to walk away so that both sides can cool down. Instead of having to point out what you don’t have or what the other person is “always” doing, you would be wise to focus on what you do have so that you can live a peaceable life with others.