“Bless the LORD, O my soul: and all that is within me, bless his holy name.”
There are some relationships in life that you look at and think of how they were blessed. Many of these blessed relationships that you think of are of people who are no longer with you. It is interesting how people remember the good of someone who is gone and tends to forget about the hard and disagreeable times they had with that person. If you treated the relationships you have with the living the same way that you treat those who are dead, you would find that every relationship could be a happy relationship. Psalm 103 gives seven ingredients that it takes to have a happy relationship.
First, focusing on the good is necessary to have a happy relationship. Verse 2 says, “…forget not all his benefits:” Happy relationships are not perfect relationships, but they are purpose-focused relationships. In other words, you must purposely look at the good of a person if you are going to build happy relationships. You can always find faults in people if you look hard enough, but you can also find good in people if you choose not to look at the faults. You will never have fulfilling relationships until you choose to stop dwelling on the faults of others.
Second, forgiveness is necessary to having a happy relationship. Verse 3 shows the importance of having forgiveness. You must be willing to forgive others if you want to have happy relationships with people. People will wrong you, but you must be willing to forgive them when they do you wrong.
Third, mercy is necessary for a happy relationship. Because relationships are made up of fallible people, mercy is necessary to overlook their bad days so that you can get along. Everyone has a bad day, but mercy responds in goodness for the sake of having a happy relationship.
Fourth, you must be slow to anger if you want to have a happy relationship. God was slow to anger with His people, and you must be slow to anger when others wrong you. Anger destroys relationships with those you love the most. You cannot have happy relationships with people and be filled with anger. People will avoid you to protect themselves if anger is a common thread to your character.
Fifth, happy relationships have an end to punishment. At some point, you must stop holding against people what they have done to you in the past. God is able to remove your transgressions, and you must find it within yourself to stop holding against others something that they have done in the past. The best thing you can do when dealing with disagreeable situations is to deal with the situation at hand and not bring up the past so that you can win in the argument or disagreement.
Sixth, happy relationships remember that the other person is flesh. Stop holding others up to an unfair standard of perfection. God remembers that we are flesh, and you must remember that every person you have a relationship with is flesh. You will never build a fulfilling relationship with anyone if you expect everyone to be perfect.
Seventh, happy relationships praise the works of others. Happy relationships are not built on criticism. You can build a happy relationship with people if you praise them for the good that they do instead of nitpicking at them.