Heartache Ahead


Judges 14:3 “Then his father and his mother said unto him, Is there never a woman among the daughters of thy brethren, or among all my people, that thou goest to take a wife of the uncircumcised Philistines? And Samson said unto his father, Get her for me; for she pleaseth me well.”

There are road signs that warn you about the road you are about to travel. Some of the signs warn you of road work ahead, and every once in a while, a sign will say, “Danger ahead.” Those signs are there to help keep you safe, but if you continue to go forward despite the warnings, you have nobody to blame but yourself if what you were warned about happens.

Samson never heeded the warnings that God sent his way because his life was a feeling-based. Samson said in the verse above, “Get her for me; for she pleaseth me well.” He was saying, “She makes me happy” and “She makes me feel good.” In other words, his life was based on feelings and emotions instead of on right and wrong. Had Samson learned from his parents, he would have known that he was to live a principled life instead of a feeling-based, emotion-based life. The fact that he lived for what pleased him was the warning sign that said, “Heartache ahead.”

You cannot live a feeling-based, emotion-based life and not find heartache ahead. The believer is not to live by feeling but by principle. Samson could have learned from his mother who lived a principle-based life. The angel told Samson’s mother in Judges 13:14, “She may not eat of any thing that cometh of the vine, neither let her drink wine or strong drink, nor eat any unclean thing: all that I commanded her let her observe.” His mother had to learn to say “No” to herself not to eat or drink of the vine, nor to eat any unclean thing. The amazing part about Samson’s mother was that she had to live a principled-based life, not for herself, but for her son.

Every parent needs to learn the importance of living a principled-based life for the sake of their children. Sadly, too many children learn to live by feelings and emotions to their own heartache because their parents never showed them how to live by principle. Yes, Samson did live by feeling and emotion, but it wasn’t because he didn't have an example of how to live a principled-based life. Rather, he lived his feeling-based, emotion-based life because of his rebellion.

Likewise, every church needs a pastor who leads by principle and not by feelings and emotions. One of the most dangerous statements I hear from preachers is, “We felt the LORD’s presence.” My friend, it does not mean that the LORD is not present just because you don't feel His presence. The LORD is there whether or not you feel him. Churches led by feeling-based, emotion-based pastors are headed for compromise, and they teach believers to live a shallow life that is headed for heartache. Heartache is ahead for every church with a pastor who leads by feelings and emotion.

However, you are not excused for your disobedience just because those who lead you are feeling-based and emotion-based. You have the Word of God as your example that teaches you to live a principled-based life, and not to heed the Scripture’s warning and teachings is to ignore the warning sign, “Heartache ahead.” If you don't want to live a life of heartache, lay your feelings and emotions aside and follow principle because they will never lead you the wrong way.

Dr. Allen Domelle

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