“And I will give children to be their princes, and babes shall rule over them.”
One of the troubling trends that I have seen arise in my lifetime is parents wrapping their lives around their children. I know to some this statement seems wrong, but tragic consequences have come from children being the leaders in the homes instead of the parents leading.
In the verse above, part of the judgment against Judah and Jerusalem was that the “babes shall rule over them.” God never intended for children to lead, but He intended for them to follow. The result of children leading in the home and society is oppression, arrogant children who think they know more than the previous generation, and ruin. God never intended for your world to be wrapped up in your child’s world. Many have made this mistake, and the ruin that comes from it is always great. Let me make several statements about children being the rulers in the home, church and society.
First, children are to follow and not lead. God never intended for children to be the leaders. Children don’t have the wisdom or the discernment to lead. When you make your world about your children is when you begin the journey towards ruining their future and the tranquility in your home.
Second, parents are to train and not submit to their children. One of the greatest mistakes you can make in your home is to allow your children to be your guide in what you do. God commanded the children to obey their parents, not to lead their parents. Many parents have submitted to their a child’s will to do something only to find themselves outside of God’s will. Your job as a parent is to train your children, and their job is to obey you.
Third, Satan’s attack against the home is to confuse God’s order. Satan knows that the only thing he needs to do to destroy your home is to confuse God’s order of leadership. He knows that if he can get the wife or the children to lead in the home that he can destroy it. Anything done outside of God’s order for leadership in the home will ultimately lead to the ruin of your children’s future. The parent who truly loves their children will not fall for Satan’s trap of allowing the children to lead in the decisions of the home.
Fourth, the destruction of a home or a society is when the children lead. Children in leadership always leads to destruction. A child who leads in the home will be a child who disdains their parents’ instructions. The instructions of the previous generation will become loathsome and antiquated when children or grandchildren become the focus of the parent or grandparent.
Children are to live in their parent’s world and not vice versa. The peaceful home will always be a home where the children understand that it is not their world, but their parent’s world. You mustn’t make the mistake of wrapping your life around your children, but have your children wrap their life around yours as you wrap your life around the life Christ wants you to live. Parents don’t lose their children because they are serving the LORD; rather, they lose their children because they wrapped their life around their children. Training children instead of following them is the greatest way to show them love. When children live in their parent’s world and not vice versa, they will be respectful to authority and learn how to deal with life when they are adults.