Just Be Quiet


Titus 3:2 “To speak evil of no man, to be no brawlers, but gentle, shewing all meekness unto all men.”

My mother used to say, “If you don't have anything good to say about others, don't say anything at all.” This is one of the wisest pieces of advice my mom taught me. In our home, we were not allowed to talk about others. My mother would often tell me that what I say about others will likely come back to haunt me one day; therefore, if you don't say anything bad about others, you never will have to worry about your day of reckoning.

The verse above admonishes the believer to “speak evil of no man…” Evil is doing wrong with the intent to hurt. Therefore, speaking evil of no man means not to say anything of any person with the intent to hurt them. God knew that the bad things you say about others often come back to hurt you. You never know who you will be able to help if you don’t speak evil of others. If you only say good about others, you will always be able to help those who have done you wrong if you don't say bad or evil things about them. Let me share a few types of people you should never speak evil of.

First, never speak evil of your in-laws or future in-laws. Just because you don't like your in-laws doesn't mean you should talk bad about them. You are certainly not going to fix your broken relationship with them if you speak evil of them. Your spouse or others you talk to will likely tell your in-laws what you have said about them, and it will become very difficult to repair your relationship or have a good relationship with them if you talk bad about them.

Second, never speak evil of opponents. There are people who don't believe like you, but you don't have to speak evil of them. What if they chose to be on the proper side of right, but then they heard what you said about them? What you said could cause them to go back to the wrong side. Just because someone doesn't believe quite like you does it mean that you have the right to say bad things about them. The best thing to say about those who don't believe like you is nothing at all.

Third, never speak evil of people who hurt you. Though they may have hurt you, their wrong doesn't make your wrong to speak evil of them right. You will never be able to help those who have hurt you if you speak evil of them; therefore, keep your mouth shut if you have nothing good to say about those who have hurt you.

Fourth, never speak evil of people who say bad things about you. Just because someone says untruths about you doesn't mean that you have the right to speak evil things of them. Their lies of what they said will be proven wrong in time; therefore, wait till time vindicates you, and just maybe you might be able to help that person if they get right.

Fifth, never speak evil of people who leave your church. People are not evil just because they left your church. So, they left for the wrong reasons; they are not going to come back if you speak evil of them. Gossiping about people who left your church for the wrong reasons only hurts your ability to bring them back if they choose to come back.

My friend, you don't overcome evil with evil, but you overcome evil with good. You will be surprised how many people you can help who said bad things about you if you choose not to speak evil of them.

Dr. Allen Domelle

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