Keeping a Chaste Marriage
2 Corinthians 11:2
“For I am jealous over you with godly jealousy: for I have espoused you to one husband, that I may present you as a chaste virgin to Christ.”
God is very concerned with the church not being soiled by the things of the world. He makes it clear that the church is to be presented to Christ as a “chaste virgin.” Staying chaste means to abstain from any extramarital intimate relationships. In other words, God wants the church to be His and His alone which is only right beings that He is espoused to the church.
However, the same desire that God has for the church is also His desire for your marriage. The two institutions that God created to help you as an individual to stay close to Him are the institutions of marriage and the church. Just as God wanted the church to be espoused to one husband, so He wants you to be faithful to your spouse so that your marriage can stay chaste. In the verses that follow the verse above, God gives several ways to keep your marriage chaste that I would like to share with you.
First, determine to stay faithful to your spouse. There must be a determination to stay faithful to your spouse if you are going to be married to one person. You are going to have to be determined that you will let nothing into your life, or you will allow no person into your life that will harm your relationship with your spouse. No person has stayed faithful to their spouse who didn’t first determine to stay faithful.
Second, never allow divorce to become an option. Again, if you are going to be married to one person, you can’t allow divorce to be an option. Divorce may be the easy way out of your problems, but it never fixes your problems for the next relationship. It is far better and right to work through your problems than it is to choose the option for divorce.
Third, protect your associations. God feared that His church would be beguiled like “the serpent beguiled Eve through his subtilty.” Many marriages have been destroyed because of wrong associations. Let me caution you about getting too close to other couples. I’m not against you having friends, but you must never become so close to another couple that you start letting down your guards that keep you faithful to each other. It only takes one bad association to destroy the chastity of a marriage. If either spouse feels that one person is not good for their spouse, you would be wise to listen to your spouse and distance yourself from that person.
Fourth, protect your mind. Satan was after the Eve’s mind, and he is also after your mind. The biggest battle you fight is in your mind. It is critical to protect your mind from anything that would allow your mind to stray from purity. Before any person ever became unfaithful to their spouse physically, they were unfaithful first in their mind. If you keep your mind pure from all unholy thoughts, you can keep your marriage pure and from unholy actions. Every battle you fight will always start in the mind; so, protect your mind with all diligence.
Fifth, protect your walk with God. God always warned this church about accepting “another Jesus.” My friend, your marriage has a much better chance of making it if your keep Christ as the central hub of it. When your marriage is focused around Christ, it will be hard for selfishness and self-desires to destroy your relationship. Walking with God personally and together will help to strengthen your marriage.