2 Kings 14:10
“Thou hast indeed smitten Edom, and thine heart hath lifted thee up: glory of this, and tarry at home: for why shouldest thou meddle to thy hurt, that thou shouldest fall, even thou, and Judah with thee?”
One of the sad things in life that hurts many people and relationships is when one decides to meddle in something that is not their business. Amaziah, king of Judah, made the mistake of meddling with Jehoash king of Israel. Amaziah had experienced a great victory in a battle over Edom, and he thought he needed to go and correct Jehoash next. Jehoash warned Amaziah to stay home and stop meddling in his business. Jehoash said, “why shouldest thou meddle to thy hurt, that thou shouldest fall, even thou, and Judah with thee?” Sadly, Amaziah didn’t heed the warning to his own detriment, and he lost his life prematurely because he meddled to his own hurt.
To meddle in another’s business rarely, if ever, is going to help you. Most of the time, when someone meddles, they hurt themselves and many others around them. Many great relationships have been destroyed because someone poked their nose in another’s business. The potential of many has been hampered if not harmed because someone didn’t know how to stop meddling in someone else’s business. Let me share some lessons with you about this thing of meddling.
First, just because you think you know what is going on doesn’t mean you know what is going on. You are looking from the outside in, and when you choose to put your nose into someone’s business, you are poking your nose into something that will hurt the situation worse when you don’t know all the parameters of that situation. You must stay out of situations that you truly don’t know the whole story.
Second, don’t meddle in someone’s area who has not asked for your help. Just because you think you have the answer doesn’t mean that you should insert yourself into their situation. You will find that when you insert yourself into a situation that you have not been asked to help with, you will end up being the one who is hurt. I know it may be painful to watch people go on and do something that you could help them with, but you must not meddle with their situation because it is not your area.
Third, you neglect your own problems that need your attention when you meddle in another’s business. You have plenty of things you need to correct in your own life without meddling in another’s life. The more you meddle in the lives of others, the more you hurt your own personal life by not addressing your own problems.
If you have a tendency to meddle with others, you are going to have a tendency to hurt your own life. If you are a parent with grown children, stop meddling in your grown child’s marriage and child-rearing. You will drive a wedge between you and your child if you meddle in their life. If you are a concerned church member, control yourself from meddling in areas of the church that are not your responsibility. Whatever the relationship is that you have with the one you are trying to meddle in, avoid that urge to insert yourself in their situation because it will only hurt you when you start meddling. Let the Holy Spirit be the one who meddles in another’s life. Always remember that it is the Holy Spirit’s job to correct another’s life. Stop meddling, and deal with your own problems. Trust me; you have plenty of them.