Open House


1 Kings 20:6 “Yet I will send my servants unto thee to morrow about this time, and they shall search thine house, and the houses of thy servants; and it shall be, that whatsoever is pleasant in thine eyes, they shall put it in their hand, and take it away.”

When a person wants to sell their house, they often have an open house for potential buyers to see their home with hopes to lure them into purchasing the house. Sellers open to potential buyers every room, every closet, and the parts of the house that they normally would not allow to be seen because they want to sell their home to that buyer. They say that an open house is one of the best ways to sell the house.

However, an open house is one of the worst ways to protect your home or relationships. What I mean by this statement is that too many people are too casual with what they let others know about what is going on in their home. Ahab was certainly not a good king, and he was very unwise in letting the king of Syria to see everything inside of his kingdom. The verse above shows the intent of the king of Syria wanting Ahab to open his house. His intent: “…whatsoever is pleasant in thine eyes, they shall put it in their hand, and take it away.” Ahab said in verse 7, “…this man seeketh mischief: for he sent unto me for my wives, and for my children, and for my silver, and for my gold;…” The open house put Ahab’s family and children at risk.

My friend, everyone doesn't need to see everything that is going on in your life. Your family should not be an open house for all to see, but a closed house to protect your family from evil. Not opening your house protects your children from people who would hurt them. Not opening your house protects your marriage from the heartache of adultery. Not opening your house protects your name from people knowing things about you that they don't need to know. I am not saying that we should live a double life, but I am saying that there are some things that should be left private. There are three areas where I want to caution you about opening your house for all to see.

First, don't open your family or family life to social media. Too many people tell their squabbles with family on social media to their detriment. Likewise, too many people open their private life up for the world to see on social media. I believe it is a good practice to keep your private life with your family private. It is not that you are hiding anything; it is simply that you are protecting your family from those who would want to hurt your children or use the familiarity they learned through social media against you.

Second, be careful about getting too close to people that you lose the mystique with each other. Many couples got too close to each other, and they lost the mystique which led to them becoming too casual in their relationship, which led to adultery. You can have good friends, but be careful about being so close to others that you open the door to sin because of the familiarity.

Third, be careful about telling people everything about you; they don’t need to know everything about you. Whoever knows the most about you has the greatest potential to hurt you the most. Some things are best kept between you and God. Telling everything about yourself gives potential enemies ammunition to use against you. Keeping your private life private is a great guard against being destroyed because of evil people.

Dr. Allen Domelle

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