“Yet all this availeth me nothing, so long as I see Mordecai the Jew sitting at the king’s gate.”
The narrative in the Book of Esther contains many personalities, and one of those characters is Haman. Haman seemed to have everything that a person could want in life, but one thing kept him from enjoying it. Haman was a man who had position, a family that loved him, friends who wanted to be around him, and influence to move the king, but one person’s presence kept him from enjoying life.
Mordecai was a Jew who would not bow down to Haman. Mordecai’s refusal to bow to Haman bothered him so much that it caused him to have a bad day every time he saw Mordecai. In the verse above, Haman was invited to a banquet with the king and queen, but even this couldn’t be enjoyed as long as he saw “Mordecai the Jew sitting at the king’s gate.” Haman’s whole problem in life was that he couldn’t find it within himself to forgive Mordecai.
Sadly, many people don’t enjoy life to its fullest because they have resentment and animosity towards someone. The reason for the animosity and resentment may seem valid when you hear their story, but the animosity and resentment is only hurting the person who won’t forgive the person who has done them wrong.
Let me ask you; who is it that ruins your day? Who is it that that causes your conversations to become spiteful when you hear their name? Who is it that causes you to want to leave when you see them walk into a room? My friend, you can’t have a life of joy when you hold resentment and animosity towards any person. There are three reasons why you might have a person syndrome.
First, a person syndrome is a focus problem. The only reason someone’s presence or mention of their name might ruin your disposition or day is because you are focused on yourself instead of on God and others. When life revolves around you is when you find yourself having problems with others. When your life is focused on Christ and serving others, it won’t matter how you have been mistreated because you haven’t made yourself the focus of life. I am not saying that the mistreatment of others won’t hurt your heart, but I am saying that you will be able to move on when you keep your focus in life right.
Second, a person syndrome is a pride problem. Your pride is what keeps you from treating everyone right. Pride keeps a person from getting right over situations. It doesn’t matter what your reasons are for not being right with others; it essentially comes down to your pride not wanting to let the other person think that they have won. It won’t matter who “wins” in a relationship battle when pride is removed from your heart and life. When pride is removed, you will find that you would rather the other person feel like they have won because your relationship with others won’t be about you.
Third, a person syndrome is a forgiveness problem. My friend, people will bother you until you learn to forgive them when they do you wrong. Forgiveness is not easy, but it is right and can only be done when the Holy Ghost of God controls you. You must learn to forgive those who have hurt you the most if you want to have a clear conscience towards all people. If you have a problem with someone’s presence, it is a clear sign that you have a forgiveness problem.