Please, Be Quiet

Proverbs 26:17
“He that passeth by, and meddleth with strife belonging not to him, is like one that taketh a dog by the ears.”

One of the biggest reasons people suffer strife in relationships or in life is because they speak when they really should be quiet. Just because someone has said something doesn’t mean that you have to respond. Silence is sometimes the greatest answer. Many relationship problems could be solved if at least one person learned to be quiet at the right times. Let me give you a small list of times when you need to learn to be quiet.

First, be quiet when it’s not in your area. Many people want to give their opinion about something that is not in their area, and their opinion may sound intelligent to them, but because it is not their area they probably don’t know everything that is going on. One of the biggest causes of frustration and strife in the workplace and life is when someone feels they have to give their opinion about another’s area. Likewise, it is not your area to give your opinion on how another person should train their children, or to meddle in another person’s dating life. Please, be quiet and keep your mouth from causing strife when it is not your area.

Second, be quiet when it’s not your battle. Inserting yourself into a quarrel between two people is not the wisest thing for you to do. Unless you are asked to be the mediator, you would be wise to stay out of battles with other people. You will often find that when you insert yourself into battles, the two fighting will often turn on you and make you the bad person.

Third, be quiet when words of strife are spoken. Just because the person you are in a contentious conversation with says hurtful things doesn’t mean you have to respond. The best way to escalate the tensions in a relationship is by responding with accusative words or words of strife. My friend, you know that there are certain words that are like red buttons on the other person with whom you are in a contentious conversation, but just because you know those red buttons doesn’t mean you have to press them. Being quiet when words of strife are spoken to you is one of the best ways to take the tension out of a contentious conversation.

Fourth, be quiet when you don’t know the whole story. One of the biggest areas that is causing contention in society are people who think they have to comment on something about which they have heard only one side of the story. First, if it is not in your area, you have no business giving your opinion. Second, because you have only heard one side of the story, you don’t know the whole story, and your comments may prove to show your ignorance when the whole story comes to light. Just because one person and those they have convinced say that something is true doesn’t make it true. You could save yourself much embarrassment by being quiet when you don’t know the whole story about a situation. Furthermore, you don’t have to know the whole situation if the situation is not in your area.

Fifth, be quiet when you are angry. Some of the most hurtful words can come from one’s mouth when they are angry, and those words spoken in times of anger are often regretted when the anger has subsided. I have found that the best thing to do when you are angry is to be quiet and walk away until you can speak without being angry.

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Author: Allen Domelle