2 Corinthians 4:2
“But have renounced the hidden things of dishonesty, not walking in craftiness, nor handling the word of God deceitfully; but by manifestation of the truth commending ourselves to every man’s conscience in the sight of God.”
There are times in the Christian life when we have to get a thick skin and renounce things that are wrong. The word “renounced” means to disown. In other words, there are some things as Christians we should never allow to be a part of our lives. The Apostle Paul shows three things that should be renounced.
First, dishonesty should be renounced. The Christian should always be known as a person who is honest in word and action. 1 Peter 2:12 says, “Having your conversation honest among the Gentiles: that, whereas they speak against you as evildoers, they may by your good works, which they shall behold, glorify God in the day of visitation.” Nobody should ever be able to point their finger at you and say that you are a dishonest person.
Second, craftiness should be renounced. Craftiness is having a hidden agenda for the actions performed. For instance, craftiness is being kind, not for the sake of being kind, but because you want the person to whom you are kind to do something for you. There is no place in the Christian life for hidden agendas. Nobody should ever wonder if you have a hidden agenda for what you are doing. The Christian is to walk in honesty.
Third, deceit should be renounced. In other words, don’t use God’s Word as a weapon to attack others, but use it as a tool to build people. The verse above says, “…nor handling the word of God deceitfully…” This verse is not saying that you should avoid speaking God’s Word if it is going to offend someone, but it is talking about using God’s Word as a weapon to hurt others and defend your wrong actions.
The answer to renouncing these things is “by manifestation of the truth.” In other words, being truthful in word and action always defeats these three areas of deception. If every action and word is founded on truth, dishonesty, craftiness and deceit will have no part in the things you say or do.
Let me take this truth and apply it to your relationships. My friend, dishonesty, craftiness and deceit are relationship breakers. You will find these three things are always involved in relationship problems. You will find one of these three things are at the core of every marital problem. If you want your marriage to be happy, you are going to have to make sure that none of these three things are ever a part of any action you do. At the core of every parent/child struggle is one of these three things. Parents and children could get along with each other if they removed the dishonesty, craftiness and deceit.
My friend, honesty is the answer to happy and fulfilling relationships. When you remove the dishonesty, craftiness and deceit, and let truth be the basis for all that you do, you will find that you will remove any source of contention. The happiest marriages and families are the ones where there are no secrets. Peace, fulfillment and joy are the result when truth is the policy for everything you do in your home. You can enjoy your family and marriage if you choose to live with no secrets.