1 Timothy 3:4
“One that ruleth well his own house, having his children in subjection with all gravity;”
Every man of God needs to be in control of himself. It is vitally important for a pastor to be in control of himself because his life influences those he leads. When a pastor doesn’t do right, his actions will lead others down the wrong path, or if he falls, his actions may cause those he leads to become disenchanted with God. Certainly, using the fall of a man of God is no excuse to stop going to church, but Satan will use it to try to get the believer to quit serving the LORD.
Though the verse above is talking to the pastor, it is still important for any believer to live to a higher standard. God gives the man of God standards to live by so they can be a standard to live by to those they lead. The man of God has always been the standard God uses for His people to follow. Yes, God expects a man of God to live to a higher standard because of their position, but the believer is often the person of God to those with whom they work and live around. Just because you don’t pastor a church doesn’t mean that God doesn’t require you to live to a higher standard.
One of the requirements in the verse above is to rule “well his own house.” Though this is talking about a man of God being in control of his children, we can also use this as the believer being in control of his being. You won’t influence others for right when you are not in control of your own being. There are four areas where the believer needs to be in control.
First, you need to be in control of your mind. What you think eventually becomes the actions you perform. Proverbs 23:7 says, “For as he thinketh in his heart, so is he…” This verse is teaching that you are becoming what you are thinking. To have an out-of-control mind means that one day you will live an out-of-control life. What you think today is what you will act out tomorrow. If you don’t want to become what you are thinking, you had better have a clean mind.
Second, you need to be in control of your actions. Of course, living right is imperative to your testimony, and your testimony directly impacts your ability to influence others to come to Christ. The world may not see how you think, but they do see how you live, and how you live often determines whether they want what you have. If you want to influence others for right, and if you want your life to point others to Christ, you ought to be in control of your being and live according to God’s standard.
Third, you need to be in control of your spirit. Your spirit is supposed to be a display of the Holy Spirit who dwells within you. To be in control of your body but not to be in control of your spirit will do as much damage to your testimony as living an immoral life. People who lose their temper, or are always up and down, depending upon what their day is like, will never influence others to want what they have. My friend, don’t let the outside circumstances dictate what your spirit is like, but let the Holy Spirit dictate your spirit to be on topside all the time.
Fourth, you need to be in control of your finances. Finances have a significant impact on your life. If you can’t control your finances, you most likely are not in control of your spirit, mind, or actions. If you will become content with what you have, you will find that you will be able to be in control of your finances.