1 Timothy 3:5
“(For if a man know not how to rule his own house, how shall he take care of the church of God?)”
The average church member glazes over the requirements for the pastor and deacon and miss one of the greatest truths that would help them to become fruitful in the Christian walk. If every person lived according to the requirements God gives to the pastors and deacons, you would find the church of God being filled with believers who are capable of making an impact on the lives of others.
God asks in the verse, “For if a man know not how to rule his own house, how shall he take care of the church of God?” This is not a question that has no answer; rather, it is a rhetorical question that is actually giving an answer. God is saying that the man who knows how to “rule his own house” will be better equipped to take care of the church of God. However, if you were to look at ruling the house as ruling the house of your life, you would see that God is also showing the believer how they can make an impact on those to whom they minister. There are six areas where every believer needs to rule their own house.
First, every believer needs to rule the house of their conscience. God says that the preacher is to be “vigilant” and “sober.” In other words, they need to be careful to control their conscience. If your conscience is under control, you will get temptation under control. Temptation only controls the believer who doesn’t control their conscience.
Second, every believer needs to rule the house of their spirit. God says that the preacher is to be of “good behaviour.” If you can’t control your spirit, you won’t be able to control how you behave. Your spirit has a direct connection to how you behave. The believer who wants to help others must be the believer whose spirit is under control.
Third, every believer needs to rule the house of their actions. Verse 3 shows several actions that the preacher is to avoid. How you live does impact your ability to influence. Don’t expect what you say on Sunday to change lives if what you do Monday through Saturday doesn’t match your message. The Christian walk is an every day life. You don’t do right for one day and live in sin the rest of the week and make an impact on others. The greatest way to make your message impactful is to live your message every day.
Fourth, every believer needs to rule the house of their desires. You cant make an impact when your life is filled with covetousness. The believer who is content with what the LORD has given them is the believer whose message of faith makes an impact on others. When you are happy with what the LORD has given you, you will be satisfied with the message of the LORD. The message of those whose desires are under control will be a message of faith rather than a message of greed.
Fifth, every believer needs to rule the house of their finances. Nothing will ruin your testimony greater than frivolous spending. You will find it much easier to keep your finances under control if you squelch covetous desires.
Sixth, every believer needs to rule the house of their relationships. You can’t make an impact on others when the relationships nearest you are broken. When you are right with the relationships nearest you, you will find those relationships will validate your message.