“So I bought her to me for fifteen pieces of silver, and for an homer of barley, and an half homer of barley:”
One of the hardest stories in the Scriptures to comprehend is the marriage of Hosea and his undying love for his wife. God told Hosea to marry a wife of whoredoms, and he did. He not only married a wife of whoredoms, but he loved her in such an incomprehensible manner. When she left him to go back to her old life, he never stopped loving her. His desire to make this relationship work came to the point where he actually bought his wife so that she could no longer live the life of whoredoms. His love made his relationship with his wife a tested relationship.
Relationships are a part of life. If you can keep your relationships right, you will learn to live a fulfilled life and be able to get the most out of every relationship you have in your life. However, every relationship will go through times of testing. Just like Hosea was willing to overlook all the sins that his wife committed against him, so must every relationship be willing to overlook the unfaithfulness to each other if that relationship is going to be a tested relationship. Several lessons can be learned from Hosea’s undying love for his wife.
First, every relationship will have problems. Whether it is a marital relationship, work relationship, or friend relationship, each relationship will go through times that can give one person in the relationship every right to end it. You must be careful not to quickly end every relationship when going through times of testing because if you do so, you will find yourself lonely with no friends at the end of life.
Second, you must be willing to forgive if you are going to have great relationships. The greatest part of Hosea’s story is that he was always willing to forgive his wife even though she did everything to cause him to be bitter towards her. If you are not willing to forgive, you will find your life relationships will be few. Every spouse is going to do something that could cause the other to want to end it all. Every friend will at times do something that will hurt. Forgiveness is the key to working through the troubled times in relationships. My friend, relationships are too valuable not to learn to forgive. You will only have a handful of close relationships in life; learn to let the tool of forgiveness be the common tool you quickly use in times of hurt.
Third, the degree to which you are willing to make a relationship work is the degree of love you have for the individual. Hosea went to the degree that most husbands would never go; that was that he went to the auction to buy his wife back after she left him to live the life of whoredoms. My question for you is this; what is the line of no return for you in every relationship? The line you have drawn shows the depth of love you have for that person. Thankfully, God doesn’t draw a line with us because He is always merciful, gracious and longsuffering with us; always ready to take us back no matter what we do. If you can love to the same degree that God loves, you will be willing to do anything to make your relationships work.
Tested relationships are relationships that have had difficulties they had to work through. You will find that tested relationships are the most trusted and fulfilling relationships because you discovered the depth of love you have for each other. Let me encourage you to work through your difficulties in your relationships; you will never regret the effort.