The Glue of Relationships
“The LORD did not set his love upon you, nor choose you, because ye were more in number than any people; for ye were the fewest of all people:”
One of the greatest, if not the greatest attributes of God is His love. If the love of God were present in every believer, we would see a revival in every church and nation. Throughout the Scriptures, we can see the love of God just like in the verse above. God says in the verse above, “The LORD did not set his love upon you, nor choose you, because ye were more in number than any people…” In the verse above, several characteristics are revealed about God’s love upon which Christian’s should base their love for others.
First, God’s love is a choice. You will notice that God chose to “set his love upon you.” Worldly love falls in love, but if you can fall in love, you can also fall out of love. When you choose to love, you will find that your choice is not based on the temporal, but it is based on a definite choice to set your love on an individual. If you want to have godly love, you are going to have to choose whom you love instead of waiting to “fall” in love.
Second, God loves people for who they are and not for what they can do. You will notice that God didn’t set His love on Israel because they were a mighty nation, but He chose to love them when they were the “fewest of all people.” Godly love doesn’t see what someone can do for you before you choose to love them, but it loves them for who they are. Every spouse could grow their love tremendously if they chose to love their spouse for who they are. Shallow love looks for what others can do for you; whereas godly love chooses to love the individual as they are. Every relationship you have will benefit from you loving people where they are.
Third, God loves people in their present condition. When God set His love on Israel, He had already seen them at their best and worst. Godly love continues to love people at their best and worst. This on and off love based on a person’s goodness is not true love. True love is loving people when they are at their worst. True love treats people at their worst the same way it treats them when they are at their best. This type of love revolutionizes relationships. If you want to see your relationships flourish, treat everyone at their worst like you do when they are at their best.
Fourth, God’s love becomes frustrated, but He still loves. When you read God’s interaction with Israel, there were times when He was frustrated with them, but He still loved them. There will be times when you get frustrated with people, but that doesn’t mean that your love has to end. Yes, there will be times when you will voice your frustration to yourself about someone, but love is the glue that keeps the relationship intact. Godly love will keep loving an individual when they keep pushing you away.
Fifth, God’s love desires to help the individual become who they were created to be. God’s love is part of what brought Israel to the Promised Land. When you have God’s love in your heart, you will desire to help people become whom God created them to be. Godly love invests in people, believing that His power will help them reach their potential as long as someone keeps loving them. Love’s dividend is seeing a person you’ve invested in reach their potential. My friend, don’t stop loving people because the dividends are very rewarding.