The Greatest Blessing


Song of Solomon 1:2 “Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth: for thy love is better than wine.”

The bride in the verse above wanted one thing; she wanted the love of her husband. She said that love is better than wine. Wine in the Scriptures is a picture of blessings. In other words, this bride was saying that she would much rather have the love of her spouse more than any possession that he could purchase her.

One of the great mistakes of many relationships is that we think we can purchase someone’s to love. Certainly, when a person is dating, they often think that if they buy the one they are dating what they want, they are showing their love. However, when you have been around people who have been married for decades, there is nothing that they can buy for their spouse that would make their spouse excited. What makes these married couples who have been married for decades so happy is that they have learned to love the person and not what the person can provide. Every relationship could be enhanced if we learned that love is more important than blessings. The greatest blessing that anyone could receive from you is your love.

My friend, love is not about what things you can give to someone; it is about you investing in that person with you. A parent cannot buy their child's love, but they earn their child's love by investing in them with themselves. A spouse cannot buy their spouse’s love, but they earned that love by spending time with them and investing their heart into them. If love has to be bought, then the poor would never be able to love; however, you will find that the happiest marriages and families are those who are poor because they have learned that they can't afford to purchase things, but they can certainly love their spouse, children or parents.

Moreover, you don't buy love; you give love. 1 Corinthians 13 gives a great insight into how to love someone. Though charity is different from love, charity is simply investing love into someone with certain attributes. For instance, charity suffers long, is kind, doesn't envy the other person, does not seek its own, and is willing to wait for that person to become what God wants them to become.

The greatest illustration of love is John 3:16 when it says, “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” You will notice that God gave His best to show His love. Jesus sacrificed His life for us to show His love. In other words, true love is not about what you get out of it but what you can put into your relationship. You will never know the true joy of any relationship until you sacrifice your desires for the desires of others.

Now, let me ask you, are you struggling in your relationships? Do you think that others don’t love you because they don't give you things? The reason that things are not a show of love is because things only bring temporal satisfaction, whereas love gives lasting joy. You will find that when others give you their love that that is better than any possession they could give you.

My friend, stop looking for love through things and seek to give love. You will never know the true joy of the love of others until you invest your love in others. It is when you give love that others will love you in return. True love is never found in things; it is found in giving of yourself to those you love.

Dr. Allen Domelle

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