The Most Dangerous Time in Your Life


2 Chronicles 12:1 “And it came to pass, when Rehoboam had established the kingdom, and had strengthened himself, he forsook the law of the LORD, and all Israel with him.”

Rehoboam had encountered one of the most dangerous times in his life and failed. He had come to the point where he had established himself and nobody could tell him what to do. He had come to a point when his kingdom was established and nobody was going to remove him from his throne. This was the time when he needed to be most careful about every decision that he made because nobody could stop him once he made those decisions. However, he sadly forsook the law of the LORD to his own detriment. The most dangerous time of his life revealed who he really was because nobody could tell him what to do when he chose not to follow the law of the LORD.

One of the most dangerous times in anyone's life is when they feel like they are established in life. The most dangerous time of a pastor's ministry is when he feels like he has established himself in his pulpit and that nobody can tell him what to do. The most dangerous time in a young adult’s life is when they graduate from high school and are on their own because they feel that nobody can tell them what to do. The most dangerous time in your life is when you are established and nobody has the power to stop you from doing what you want to do.

I have watched many good men who were great assistant pastors become a pastor and become different from when they served someone else. As long as they were under somebody they were a good person because somebody could tell them “no,” but when they became a pastor, they revealed their heart and its straying ways to compromise because nobody could stop them.

I have heard many young adults make the statement, “I am an adult, and nobody is going to tell me what to do.” This statement in itself is prideful, but it is also a very dangerous statement because they think they can do anything and nobody can stop them. When young adults feel like they can do whatever they want to do without any consequences is when they will find themselves suffering great consequences because of bad decisions that they made on their own without the guidance of someone stopping them.

My friend, at the end of the day, somebody has to be able to pull the reins and stop you from doing what you want to do. Just because you can do something doesn't give you the right to do it. Many people have made foolish decisions because they could make that decision, but just because you can make that decision doesn't mean that you won't have to suffer the consequences of that decision.

No matter how old you are, everyone always needs someone who can pull the reins back on their decision to stop them from making foolish decisions. Being established in life does not mean that you can do whatever you want to do. If you want to guard yourself from making foolish decisions, you need to have one or two people in your life who can have veto power to tell you not to do something when you're about to do something that could hurt you. Find a godly person and give them veto power in your life; you will never regret that decision if you follow them when they veto a decision that could hurt you. Giving someone veto power in your life does not make you weak, it makes you wise.

Dr. Allen Domelle

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