“Make no friendship with an angry man; and with a furious man thou shalt not go:”
Friendship is a part of everyone’s life. Nobody desires to be friendless through life. However, the friendships you make do determine what you become and do in life. I have never found a godly person who had bad friends; however, I have seen many believers yoke up with the wrong people and eventually leave the paths of righteousness. God warns the believer in 2 Corinthians 6:14, “Be ye not unequally yoked together…” God knew that the power of friendship is great, and He warns the believer throughout the Scriptures about having the right friends. Let me give you several observatory lessons from the verse above about friendship.
First, friendships have consequences. God warns the young man to make no friendships with “an angry man” because he may “learn his ways, and get a snare to thy soul.” Every friendship you make has consequences; therefore, be careful about who you choose as friends.
Second, friendship influences for good or bad. Verse 25 talks about learning the way of the angry man with whom you make a friendship. Your friends will influence you and what you become. Many friends have influenced good people for bad. I have watched many people throughout the years yoke up with someone they thought they could influence only to realize that they were influenced by the sin of the wrong friends. Be sure that those with whom you make friendships are those who live godly lives. Always remember that good apples don’t influence rotten apples to be good apples, but rotten apples rot the good apples.
Third, friendship determines direction. You will notice in the verse above it says, “…and with a furious man thou shalt not go:” Those whom you yoke up with in friendship will determine which direction you walk in life. Herein is the mistake many people make. Many people believe they can take in the good and spit out the bones, but too many people choke on one bone before it can be spit out. You show me who your friends are and I can show you what your direction will be in life. You cannot be going the right direction and have wrong friends going the wrong direction at the same time. Your friends are going a certain direction, and you cannot have these friends and go a different direction. If you want to go the right direction in life, you had better make sure the friends you have are going that direction.
Fourth, friendship should not be a quest, but a discovery. The verse above says, “Make no friendship…” It is always better not to make a friend, but to discover a friend. You will find that when you are doing the right things in life that you will discover others beside you who are doing the same things you are doing. These people who are working alongside you as you do right will become your friends. My friends in life are not those whom I sought out, but they are people who I discovered as I walked the old paths of the Scriptures. Don’t let your desire for friendship move you to start a quest to find friends, but just keep doing right and you will discover friends.
Fifth, be a friend, and you will discover friends. Proverbs 18:24 says, “A man that hath friends must shew himself friendly…” If you are friendly to those around you as you walk the scriptural paths of life, you will discover lifelong friendships. Be friendly to everyone and do right and you will find friends who have the same godly direction as you.