“Jesus answered and said unto them, Ye do err, not knowing the scriptures, nor the power of God.”
The verse above is a dialogue between Jesus and the Sadducees. In their attempt to catch Jesus teaching false doctrine, the Sadducees presented a ludicrous question about the resurrection; a question insinuating that the likelihood of the incident happening was unlikely. Jesus’ response to the Sadducees was classic and revealing to how all misunderstandings and misinformation happens. Jesus told them that the reason they believed a lie was because they didn’t know “the scriptures, nor the power of God.”
There are going to be times throughout your life when you will have misunderstandings concerning people. Most misunderstandings occur because someone didn’t verify the information needed concerning a situation. Though the verse above is talking about scriptural doctrine, it can apply to relationships and situations that experience misunderstandings. The Scriptures would be the same thing as getting the facts, and the power of God would be the same thing as verifying the information given. In other words, most of the time when there is a misunderstanding, it could be solved if you would get all the facts and verify the information by talking directly to the individual. Several thoughts can be learned about handling misunderstandings.
First, don’t believe everything you hear. Just because someone says something is true doesn’t make it true. One of the greatest mistakes you can make that will harm a good relationship is to believe hearsay without getting the facts or verifying the information.
Second, get all the facts before you form an opinion. One of the mistakes often made is that a person doesn’t take the time to get the facts about a situation before they begin acting upon it. Never act upon information given before getting all the facts. People become passionate about personal situations. When passions get involved, facts can often be misconstrued. Passions have a way of blinding individuals from the facts. This is why it is vitally important for you to take time to get all the facts before you act.
Third, verify the facts given by talking to all parties involved. One of the biggest mistakes made in this digital age in which we live is that we would rather deal with situations through digital technology instead of talking directly to the individual. You must never be afraid to talk directly to the individual. Talking to an individual without accusing or assuming guilt can help you understand the facts of the situation. Though talking to a person directly may at times be uncomfortable, you must never shy away from gathering their side of the story. You may find that the information you were given wasn’t complete information.
My friend, you would be wise not to harm relationships with others by acting upon unverified information. It is always better to gather all the information and verify it before you make a decision. If you act before you verify, you could destroy a relationship that may benefit you later. Most misunderstandings, if not all of them, happen because someone acted before they gathered and verified all the facts. The best thing you can do when you are given information is to slow down and take the time to be sure that the information given is true. You will save yourself much embarrassment by gathering all the information and verifying it before you act.