“And one shall say unto him, What are these wounds in thine hands? Then he shall answer, Those with which I was wounded in the house of my friends.”
It is very interesting that Jesus Christ would say about those who crucified Him, “Those with which I was wounded in the house of my friends.” It is hard to comprehend that Jesus would call those who wounded Him His friends. It seems as if the word “friends” could be used in a loose term, but every word that Jesus spoke was spoken on purpose.
Why would Jesus say that He was wounded in the “house of my friends”? I believe that this statement is the turning point for anyone who wants to be a blessing to others. Jesus knew that in the ministry people would hurt you, but until you come to the turning point to where you look at people as your friend instead of your enemy, you will never be able to be a help and a blessing to them. Let me give you several thoughts concerning this turning point.
First, you are going to get hurt. I know this doesn’t seem to be helpful, but you are going to have to expect people to hurt you in the ministry. To think that you can help sinful people without being hurt is to live in a fantasy world. I have been serving the LORD for over four decades, and I can attest to the fact that as much as I have tried to get along with people, people have still hurt me. You will never handle the hurts of people properly until you come to the realization that people will hurt you.
Second, broken people are the ones who hurt you. Jesus knew that those who crucified Him were simply doing this because they were sinners. This thought is what helped Him to reach the turning point so that He could call those who hurt Him His friends. You are going to have to understand that those who hurt you are not doing it out of spite, they are doing it because sin has broken them. If you remove sin from that individual’s life, you will find that they will treat you properly. When you realize sin is what causes people to hurt you, it is easier to get angry at the sin and still love the person. When you see that sin breaks lives, you can call those who hurt you your friends because it was sin that caused them to act in a hurtful manner. Don’t mistake the actions of those who hurt you with them. Satan would love for you to focus on the act of sin instead of the person.
Third, forgiving the sinner is always the turning point to being a help to them. My friend, until you get to where you can forgive those who hurt you, you will never be able to help them. Has it ever occurred to you that maybe the LORD allowed you to be the one who was hurt because He believed you were strong enough to cross the turning point of forgiveness so you could be a help to them? Forgiveness is the turning point that leads you from a life of spite to a life of helping people come back to God. Don’t let the hurts of life cause you to turn people into enemies instead of friends.
Let me ask you, can you say that you were wounded in the house of your friends? Do you consider those who hurt you a friend or an enemy? Your answer determines whether or not you can be a help to them. Don’t let the sin that has broken people cause you to respond in spite. Look at the example of our Saviour and realize that the turning point to helping people is forgiveness. Let me encourage you to turn your hurts into a source of being a blessing to others; it is when you reach this turning point that you can help others.