“I will behave myself wisely in a perfect way. O when wilt thou come unto me? I will walk within my house with a perfect heart.”
The real you is not who everyone on the outside sees, but the real you is how your family sees you as you live with them privately within your home. Many people put much emphasis on their public life, but they destroy themselves from within because they never clean up how they live within their home.
David said in the verse above, “I will walk within my house with a perfect heart.” David understood that it was not how the people who worked with him saw him, or the people who called him king saw him, but it was how his wives and children saw him as he walked within his house. Every believer should take David’s admonition to walk with a perfect heart within his house as a model to live. Several areas are pointed out where you need to be circumspect in how you live in private.
First, walk within your house the same way you walk without your house. David was saying that he needed to put as much effort in how he lived privately as he did with how he made sure others perceived him to be in public. You should certainly try to be sure that how you live in public is perceived as godly and holy, but you should strive harder to live just as godly and holy in your home. No believer should live two lives. How your family sees you in your home is what validates or invalidates your Christian testimony. Your children will grow up one day, and they will tell others what you were like in the home. You better be sure you live right privately.
Second, be careful what you watch within your home. David said that he would set no “wicked thing” before his eyes. What you watch in private eventually dictates who you become in public. If you don’t want to become what you watch, you would be wise to change what you watch. Furthermore, what you watch in private is what you are teaching your children to become. If you don’t want your children to be what you watch, you had better change what you view.
Third, be careful with what you say about others in your home. David said in verse 5, “Whoso privily slandereth his neighbour, him will I cut off: him that hath an high look and a proud heart will not I suffer.” Your private conversations reveal more about what you think of people than what you say about them publicly. The best way to avoid being embarrassed about what you said about someone is to never say in private what you wouldn’t want them to find out if repeated. Many people have been embarrassed because their children repeated what they said in private to the person they were talking about.
Fourth, be careful about the friends you have in the privacy of your home. The friends you let in your home will eventually become the people with whom your children become friends. Too many believers have friends in their homes that they would never want their church family to find out about. The greatest indicator of proper friendship is whether you would want everyone to know that you are friends with that person.
My friend, you are as good of a Christian as your private life. How does your family perceive your Christianity? You should strive to let how your family perceives your Christianity to be the same as those you portray yourself to in public.