“Brethren, if a man be overtaken in a fault, ye which are spiritual, restore such an one in the spirit of meekness; considering thyself, lest thou also be tempted.”
The spirit in how you present yourself often determines how a person receives you. Doing the right thing with a wrong spirit will hurt those whom you are trying to help. For instance, a parent admonishing their child in the spirit of anger will only cause their child to withdraw into themselves or become angry and rebellious. However, a parent who admonishes their child in the right spirit, even if it is done with a firm spirit, will help the child to see the error of their way and cause them to correct what they are doing wrong.
Your spirit when trying to help the fallen is very important to whether they will receive your admonishment or help. God says that when you try to restore someone from sin, you must do it “in the spirit of meekness.” What does it mean to restore someone “in the spirit of meekness?”
First, it means to attempt to restore someone with a forgiving spirit. To restore someone implies that there must be forgiveness. In other words, when you are trying to restore someone who has fallen, do it with the attitude that you are willing to forgive them and move on. If you have no intention of forgiving someone who has done wrong, you will never bring them back; rather, you will drive that person away because your spirit of unforgiveness will discourage them. Forgiveness is a key ingredient to restoration. Restoration will never be achieved with a merciless spirit. Without forgiveness you will drive the fallen further into sin.
Second, the spirit of meekness takes the anger out of the act of restoration. You will never restore people with an angry spirit. An angry spirit is a reactionary spirit which has no desire in restoring the fallen. An angry spirit is a result of being personally inconvenienced, and your reaction is a result of inconvenience rather than addressing the wrong. If you want to actively restore people, you are going to have to take anger out of your conduct.
Third, the spirit of meekness is restoring someone in humility. In other words, you will never restore someone when you are filled with pride. The fallen person will never respond to pride, but they will respond to the humble person who is troubled that a fellow Christian has been injured by sin. Never approach the fallen as if you are better, but approach them in the spirit of meekness that is honored to be a tool whom God is using to help bring them back to usefulness.
Fourth, the spirit of meekness is one that is not in love with finding fault. A spiteful spirit that is more interested in the destruction of another will never restore the fallen. My friend, instead of spreading the fault of another or attacking them for what they have done, you should attempt to correct them and leave them with their dignity. When you are constantly trying to find fault with everything they do, you will discourage them and drive them to rebellion.
Your spirit is important to restoring the fallen. Your spirit is important because you will reap the result of your spirit in the fallen. How you treat others when they do wrong is how you will be treated when you do wrong. Let your spirit be one of meekness, and the fallen will respond to your helping hand. Christianity doesn’t need spiteful, judgmental attitudes, but a meek spirit that is eager to help restore the fallen.