by: Valerie Grande
Alone. This word had never really existed in my vocabulary until about a year ago. When you are growing up in a family of six children, one really doesn’t have the opportunity to be alone as often as some. In fact, you have no concept of the idea of having no one around. You can’t even imagine it.
For the first 18 years of my life, I shared a room with one to two sisters. I then went to college where I shared a room with two to three roommates. After four years, I graduated from college, moved back home, and once again shared a room with one of my sisters. I did end up getting my own room, but wait for it…there were still three other siblings still at home. So nope. No alone time. THEN I became a teacher and was now surrounded by 15 to 20 kids all day long. At this point, if I was alone…I was worried about what was happening in my absence.
Nobody wants to be alone. I have to say that I never understood or couldn’t comprehend how a girl or guy could be so lonely that they would make decisions that would leave me shaking my head; or become so in search of companionship (whether it be friendships or marriage) that they would put aside their beliefs, convictions, and everything they ever stood for.
But there is something about being alone. When you are alone, you tend to do things that you never thought you would do. Maybe it is because there is no one there watching you, so you don’t think anyone will be affected by your decisions. Maybe it is because you are most vulnerable. You have no one to tell you, “No,” to back up your decision, or to give you advice. You are totally on your own. Maybe it is because it gives you a lot of time to think. A LOT of time to think. Possibly even too much time to think.
The summer of 2014 brought about a change I was neither prepared for nor anticipating in the least, and for the first time in my life, I found myself alone. It was during this time that God showed me I really wasn’t alone and that it’s at the moments where I feel most alone that He is even closer than ever.
I have definitely had other “alone” times. You don’t always have to be physically alone to have that feeling. You could be surrounded by a group of your closest friends and feel alone; you could be in your dorm or dorm room with your roommates and feel alone; you could be at work and feel alone; or you could even be sitting in a church service surrounded by God’s people and feel alone. In each of my “alone” times, I have been blessed to have godly leaders in my life who gave me wise advice and counsel. I strongly encourage you to go to a spiritual leader you trust and who you know will tell you the truth backed by the Bible. The Bible even tells us in Proverbs that in a multitude of counsellors there is safety. Let it also be said, that once you ask for their input, be prepared for whatever they say. You may not like it or agree with it, but it just may be exactly what you needed to hear.
While I do have people I can go to, I have found in my own life that those I go to for counsel cannot be with me all the time, nor can they give me the peace and comfort that I am looking for. The same idea would apply even if I were married. While my husband – I am sure – would be a rock and source of comfort to me in an “alone” time, not even he could give me the peace that I am or would be searching for. When I am feeling utterly alone and helpless, only God can help me; He is all I need in the first place.
The following are different “alone times” I have found myself in and that you will or have already found yourself in. Every time an “alone” time comes, God has been faithful to give me a verse/promise to claim right when I needed it.
1. When you are alone in your relationships.
- I looked on my right hand, and beheld, but there was no man that would know me: refuge failed me; no man cared for my soul. I cried unto thee, O Lord: I said, Thou art my refuge and my portion in the land of the living. Psalm 142:4-5
- A man that hath friends must shew himself friendly: and there is a friend that sticketh closer than a brother. Proverbs 18:24
2. When you are alone in your stand.
- Notwithstanding the Lord stood with me, and strengthened me… II Timothy 4:17
3. When you are alone in your decision making.
- Casting all your care upon him; for he careth for you. 1 Peter 5:7
- …neither know we what to do: but our eyes are upon thee. II Chronicles 20:12
4. When you are alone in your finances.
- But my God shall supply all your need according to his riches in glory by Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:19
5. When you are alone in your fear.
- God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble. Therefore will not we fear…Psalm 46:1-2a
- The Lord is my light and my salvation; whom shall I fear? The Lord is the strength of my life: of whom shall I be afraid? For in the time of trouble he shall hide me in his pavilion: in the secret of his tabernacle shall he hide me: he shall set me up upon a rock. Psalm 27:1,5
6. When you are alone in your faith.
- …and as thy days, so shall thy strength be. Deuteronomy 33:25b
- Now unto him that is able to do exceeding abundantly above all that we ask or think, according to the power that worketh in us. Ephesians 3:20
- I had fainted unless I had believed to see the goodness of the Lord in the land of the living. Wait on the Lord: be of good courage, and he shall strengthen thine heart; wait, I say on the Lord. Psalm 27:13-14
7. When you are alone in your “drought” times.
- Blessed is the man that trusteth in the Lord and whose hope the Lord is. For he shall be as a tree planted by the waters, and that spreadeth out her roots by the river, and shall not see when heat cometh, but her leaf shall be green; and shall not be careful in the year of drought, neither shall cease from yielding fruit. Jeremiah 17:7-8
8. When you are alone in your service.
- Not with eyeservice, as menpleasers; but as the servants of Christ, doing the will of God from the heart; with good will doing service, as to the Lord, and not to men… Ephesians 6:6-7
9. When you are alone with your thoughts.
- Casting down imaginations, and every high thing that exalteth itself against the knowledge of God, and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ…II Corinthians 10:5
- If you do not have control over your thoughts, Satan can start telling you whatever he wants….and us being the girls that we are…we believe him. I have learned that I MUST control what I think about; otherwise, I find myself blowing a situation out of proportion, making conclusions without hearing all the facts, and the list could keep going.
After reading just one of these verses, I am always reminded of a very simple yet profound truth: I was never alone to begin with. Isn’t that just incredible?
Because I am saved and a child of the King, He has been and always will be with me every step of the way. I allowed myself to feel alone needlessly when I allowed Satan to enter into my thought life and cloud my thinking.
So the next time you face an “alone” time, stop. Take a time-out. Pull out your Bible and go to one of these verses or find your own promises to claim. Remind yourself of the God that loves you and is there with you.
You are not alone, and you never will be.
I will never leave thee, nor forsake thee. Hebrews 13:5